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This is a French classic
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we empty the increasingly popular We are anxious to have
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But once owned, they will quickly lose interest in this intimate relationship. the stronger the desire to conquer, the faster the loss. attractive.
However, the relationship between the United States, they are almost the level of commitment and the tame level. When two people are naturally going into, naturally being tamed, the relationship will become * Health and nourishment, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no matter how intimate. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still the roses, they are still two individuals. Rose not to travel if the little prince, little prince or non-travel carry around the roses, they have to stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: both a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than one thousand general. This relationship will bring us a sense of isolation from the hopeless rescue, the most important in our lives is a salvation.
If you never experienced, you can not know the relationship of the United States.
(g) close fable: the unique Rose
Little Prince has a small planet, the planet of sudden bloom of a blooming rose. Previously, on this planet only a few nameless flowers, the little prince had never seen such beautiful flowers, he fell in love with the rose, carefully nurtured her.
that for some time, he thought, this is a single flower on earth, only he is the only planet, other places do not exist.
However, he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an ordinary flower.
the beginning, this discovery, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, even though the world has countless roses, but his planet tis is still unique because tis roses, he poured over, took off her hood cover, with the screen protection over , in addition to her body of caterpillars, but also listen to the Yuan Yi and her claim to listen to her silence ... ... In short, he tame her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.
(a) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a
an apple, and finally the result.
first year, which end up with 10 apples, nine were taken away, that she was one. In response, angry apple trees, so from the off, in turn, refused to grow. The next year, which end up with five apples, four were taken away, they get one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, which end up with 100 fruit were taken away 90, that she was 10.
likely, it was taken away 99, that she was one. But it does not matter, it can continue to grow, the fruit of the third year-end 1000 ... ...
In fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important is that apple trees grow! So apple trees grow into towering trees, those who had hindered its growth will be weak enough to ignore the power. Really, do not worry so much about fruit growing is the most important.
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were two types of motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. According to the internal motivation to act, we are masters of their own. If we are driven by external motivation, we will be swayed by external factors, become its slaves.
In this fable, the old man of the calculation is simple, he will be the children's internal motivation factors, so it manipulated the children's behavior. Fables of the elderly, a lot like your boss, boss? And cents, like not like your wages, bonuses and other kinds of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference frame, our emotions can easily fluctuate. Because of external factors beyond our control, it is easy to deviate from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, we grumble. Dissatisfaction and complaints and other negative emotions so that our pain, in order to reduce the pain, we had to reduce the internal expectations, the most common method is to reduce the work effort.
the formation of a reason for the external evaluation system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too prefer to use verbal rewards and punishments, material rewards and punishments and other control children, rather than to ignore the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their original motivations, cares about what are the external evaluation. School, he forgot to learn the original motivation --- curiosity and the joy of learning; work, work that he has forgotten the original motivation --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and income fluctuations into his work largest source of pleasure and pain.
remember: external evaluation of the system is often a family history, but you can break it, from now on cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to study and work into a
(c) the planning of the fable: the piece of paper folded 51 times
Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your task is to fold it 51 times. So, how high it is?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, too unfamiliar, the thickness more than the distance between Earth and the Sun.
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to now, I get asked this a dozen people a fable, only two people said that this may be less than the height of an imaginary, while others think the maximum height is a Building skyscrapers as high.
folded 51 times the height of such a terrorist, but if only the 51 white paper stacked together?
This contrast was shocking to many people. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 white simple stacked together. Doing this today, tomorrow doing that, every time there is no link between efforts. As a result, even if each work is done very well,
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course, life is more complicated than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they finally reached someone else's life unattainable height. For example, a friend of my direction in life is English, he spent more than a decade efforts, the amount of memory of the word only reached ten million and more, at this point to reach the average person can not match the height.
some people, their direction in life is also very clear, for example, start a company boss, so they need a lot of skills --- skills, management skills, communication skills, decision-making skills, and so on. They may try doing this in the beginning, but try doing that, none of them are particularly proficient, but in the end, to open the company boss in this direction will be before these seemingly scattered to the integration effort together, which is a folding of complex life, rather than a simple superposition.
Remember: the power of visible more useful than the invisible force.
Now, the popular place to find the answer from the unseen, such as potential development, such as the success of science, that our lives depend on a number of miracles to be saved. However, in my opinion, Dongguan Heng Yuan Counseling Center counselor Maozheng Jiang said more correctly,
(d) to avoid the fables: cat escape the shadow of the tricks
However, wherever you go, Tom and Toby found wherever there is sunlight, they will see that they are crazy for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solution. Tom is always close their eyes. Toby is a way to always stay in the shadows of other things. [Comments]
psychological fable shows that a small psychological problems is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are related to the distortion of the facts. What facts? We mainly those suffering negative ** pieces.
Because painful experience, we do not want to face the negative ** pieces. However, once occurred, such negative ** pieces destined to be with us for life, we can do up to suppress them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a role. And even if we forget them even more powerful for the fact that, the pain associated with these facts will still attack us, let us somehow sad, and can not be suppressed. This pain Let us further efforts to escape.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either we like the same cat Tom, completely distorting their own experience of life in real all important negative ** are blind; or, we, like kittens Like Toby, simply join their suffering to all of their things were very bad, since everything is so bad, sad that their most original event is not so painful.
Baiyun mental hospital consultant, said Li Ling, 99% of drug users had a painful experience. The reason they drugs, in order to make their escape the pain. It's like hide in the shadows, the painful fact is that a devil, the devil in order to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil. There are many alcoholism **
, they had an alcoholic and abusive father, and put the father's many torture. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In addition to these visible
the wrong way, we also invented numerous types of human-shaped form ** way to avoid pain, Freud called these methods of psychological defense mechanisms. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is necessary, but worse, if the distortion of the facts of psychological defense mechanism is so intense, it will bring more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia.
really only one way to reach health --- face the pain. Face the pain of people suffering from a number of unexpected results obtained, they will eventually become the life of the party of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, are life's wealth.
one of the most important psychological law, no matter how painful, you are not escape. You can only go brave face it, resolve it, beyond it, and it reached a final settlement. If you own a temporary lack of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives to help, or seek professional help, you trust the person accompany you to the face of these painful things.
American psychologist, Rogers was the most lonely person, but when he resolved to face this fact and after he became a true master of interpersonal relationships; U.S. psychologist Frank has a brutal and alcoholic stepfather and a bad mother, but when he challenges the fact and ultimately from the heart to forgive his parents, he became an expert in this area treatment; Japanese psychologists Morita is Mazen is a serious neurological disorder, but by challenging the facts and finally invented Morita therapy ... they lives in the most painful truth eventually become their most important asset. You can do the same.
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This is the fable about love, is a young language teacher of the true sentiment.
some time, her disappointment in love, very painful, I always wanted to talk about, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but almost two months later, the total time they can not happen to get together.
last time about her, she said: Pain of lost love is still bothering her, let her trance, can not enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she noticed a little bee on flower nectar is. In that instant, her mind lightning camel appeared saying: mankind foolish, her words in the bee, of course refers to herself. This moment, she had to give up the truth out of insight. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
not easy to give up, give up, especially in love is pain. Because love is young, when our copy of the parent-child relationship. Young children, no matter from which side, are inseparable from Mom and Dad. If a complete denial of his father and mother, and that means death for him, this is the ultimate harm and fear. We have experienced more or less to be father and mother no pain and fear, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once again we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, compared to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, we can not, all parents have the final say; but now, we grow up, we have the power to choose their own destiny. It can be said, childhood, we have no wings small bees, but now we have a pair of powerful wings.
However, when caught up in love, we will return to childhood, we can forget a pair of flying wings. And so we ourselves realize that, the love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, we love to get free, have to give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, independent personality of the person to do. You can work, but not that you worked hard on there will be results, because another person, you are not around.
So, no matter how much you care about a love, if another person determined to leave you, please respect his choice.
And also remember, you are no longer childhood, can only let the pain of torture. ** You have, you have a pair of strong wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.
(VI) to give up the fable:
bees and flowers withered roses, the bees are still hard ** because ** it takes before the over from the flower sweet. But now in this little flower, bee ** is the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter, the taste is a big difference with the previous. Thus, bees anger, however, breathe on it the whole world looked up to complain about, and why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating its wings, flying a little higher. At this time, it found, withered roses around everywhere is the flowers.
(b) the motives of the fable: the child in whom a group of children playing
frolic in front of an old, sounds and groaning. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: happy day is still coming, as always frolic. Old people come out and give each child 15 cents. He explained that he had no income, only less to some. It also can be 15 cents, children are still happily away.
third day, the elderly only 5 cents for each child.
children with rage,
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beginning work, you talented, high-spirited, believing that But the reality soon hit you a few Sap, perhaps, you make a big contribution for the unit that no one seriously; may only get attention but not the oral benefits; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their benefit only a small part, and falls far short of your expectations.
So you angry, you upset, you grumble ... ... In the end, if you decide not to make their own made to match their income. After the past few years, you have a self-examination and found that now you have no work, just a passion and talent.
But the essence is that you have stopped growing.
this story, around us everywhere.
reason for such mistakes, because we forget that life is a journey, as a whole, we feel that they have grown too, and now is the time of the fruit. We too care about the pros and cons of the moment, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of cutting off the meridians. We are ready to give up doing so, the road continues to grow.
Remember: If you are a working family, having not understand management, management or mismanagement of brutal bosses or corporate culture, then, to remind ourselves about, do not because of anger and full of resentment and cutting off the meridians. No matter what, have to do an ever growing apple trees, because you will never grow important than how much money each month.
(e) action fable --- crabs, owls and bats
crabs, owls and bats to go to cram school abuse. Few years later, they all graduated and received his PhD. However, the crab is still rampant, night owls are still sleeping in the daytime activities, bat still hung upside down.
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is even famous master of a fable, it's meaning is simple: action important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
called profound knowledge of psychology. However, more even knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who studied psychology for many years, they learn psychology, one of the purposes is to rule themselves, but learned after so many years, their problem remains.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is that they do not personally, so far only the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, psychology has been more than those that are not sensitive, not suitable for school psychology. But the fact that this speculation is not correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge immediately in their own lives to do it. As a result, those distant knowledge becomes a real life experience,
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If say, the quality of high sensitivity is a genius, then go-anywhere quality talent is more important.
This fable can also derive another meaning: Do not expect too mysterious magic of psychotherapy. The most important power is always in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential development of mysterious, dazzling success of science, etc., are far inferior to the power of your own body has been important. We used to go outside to find the answers to others where to find the power, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically save you.
If the punch line of some Lianzhu touched you, if some text or a new creed inspired you. So, these people's words and experience are just the beginning, more importantly, you think you really use a good knowledge of your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always considered the most important:
you have to start. If you do not go in depth with a positive love life, if you do not go their own way to reveal the meaning of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain meaningless. others：
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