Growth of fable

(A) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a

an apple, and finally the outcome.
premier year, which all over with 10 apples, nine were taken away, that she was one. In rejoinder, offended apple trees, so from the off, in rotate, refused to grow. The next annual, which all over with 5 apples, four were taken away, they get one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, which bring ... to an end with 100 fruit were taken away 90,Nike Shox Monster, that she was 10.
likely, it was taken away 99, namely she was one. But it does no matter, it tin persist apt grow, the fruit of the third year-end 1000 ... ...
In fact, how many fruit is not the most important. The most important is that apple trees grow! So apple trees grow into towering trees,Nike Shox R4, those who had hindered its growth will be feeble enough to ignore the power. Really, do not anxiety so much about fruit growing is the most important.

psychological Comments] [you are not a meridian of the work has since broken household?
opening work, you gifted, high-spirited, believing that But the reality soon buffet you a few Sap, perhaps, you make a big contribution for the element that no one seriously; may only get attention but not the oral benefits; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their benefit only a small portion, and falls far short of your expectations.
So you angry, you upset, you complaint ... ... In the end, if you decide not to make their own made to match their income. After the elapse few years, you have a self-examination and found that now you have no work, just a passion and aptitude.
But the pith is that you have stopped growing.
this article,Nike Shox Nettbutikk, approximately us everywhere.
reason for such faults, because we forget that life is a junket, as a whole, we feel that they have grown too, and now is the time of the fruit. We too care about the pros and cons of the moment, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of tearing off the meridians. We are ready to give up doing so, the road continues to grow.
Remember: If you are a working family, having not understand management, management or mismanagement of brutal bosses or corporate culture, then, to caution ourselves about, do not because of anger and full of indignation and cutting off the meridians. No matter what, have to do an ever growing apple trees, because you will never grow important than how much money each month.

(b) the motives of the fable: the child in whom a group of children playing

frolic in front of an old, sounds and groaning. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: merry daytime is still coming, as always frolic. Old people bring ... to an end and give every child 15 cents. He explained that he had not income, only fewer to some. It likewise can be 15 cents, children are still happily away.
third day, the elderly only 5 cents for each child.
children with anger,

psychological Comments] [you whom the .
were two types of motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. According to the inner motivation to act, we are masters of their own. If we are pedaled by external motivation, we will be swung by external elements, become its slaves.
In this fable, the old man of the calculation is simple, he will be the children's internal motivation factors, so it operated the children's action. Fables of the aged, a lot like your boss, boss? And cents, like not like your wages, bonuses and other varieties of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference border, our sentiments can accessible fluctuate. Because of external factors beyond our control, it is effortless to deflect from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, we grumble. Dissatisfaction and complaints and other negative emotions so that our pain, in order to depress the pain, we had to decrease the internal expectations, the most mutual method is to dwindle the work effort.
the formation of a reason as the outer appraisal system, the most momentous reason namely that parents favor to control him. Parents also choose to use verbal awards and disciplines, matter rewards and punishments and other control babies, prefer than to ignore the child's own motivation. Over period, the babies have forgotten their original motivations, concerns approximately what are the external evaluation. School, he forgot to study the aboriginal motivation --- curiosity and the joy of knowledge; work, work that he has forgotten the original motivation --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and proceeds fluctuations into his work largest source of happiness and grief.
remember: external evaluation of the system is constantly a family history, but you can crash it, in the near future cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to study and work into a

(c) the intending of the fable: the piece of paper folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a big enough pearly. Now, your mission is to fold it 51 times. So, how high it is?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, too unfamiliar, the thickness more than the distance between Earth and the Sun.

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to now, I get queried this a dozen people a fable, only two people said that this may be less than the height of an imaginary, while others calculate the highest height is a skyscraper so high.
folded 51 times the height of such a terrorist, but if necessary the 51 white paper stacked together?
This contrast was frightful to many people. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 white simple stacked together. Doing this today, tomorrow doing that,Nike Shox Sko Norge, every time there is no correlate between efforts. As a result, even if each work is done very well, they have your entire life is nought but a simple superposition.
lesson, life is more difficult than this legend. Some people, life finds a simple way and firmly to do so, they finally reached something else's life unattainable elevation. For instance, a friend of my direction in life is English, he spent more than a decade exertions, the amount of memories of the word only reached ten million and more, by this point to reach the average person can not mate the elevation.
some people, their direction in life is also very explicit, case in point, begin a corporation boss, so they absence a lot of skills --- capabilities, management skills, communication skills, decision-making skills, and so on. They may try doing this in the beginning, but try doing that, none of them are especially skilled, but in the end, to open the company boss in this direction will be ahead these seemingly radiated to the integration effort together, which is a folding of complicated life, rather than a simple superposition.
Remember: the power of apparent more serviceable than the invisible compel.
Now, the fashionable area to ascertain the response from the unseen, such for latent development, such for the success of science, that our lives depend on a number of miracles to be saved. However, in my opinion, Dongguan Heng Yuan Counseling Center counselor Maozheng Jiang said extra correctly, dodge the fables: feline flee the eclipse of the cheats

, Tom and Toby found wherever there is sunlight, they will see that they are crazy for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solution. Tom is always close their eyes. Toby is a way to always reside in the shadows of other things.

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mental note of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are related to the distortion of the facts. What facts? We mainly those suffering negative events.
Because painful experience, we do not absence to face the negative events. However, once occurred, such negative events preordained to be with us for life, we can do up to suppress them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to activity a role. And even now we forget them even more mighty for the fact that, the pain associated with these facts will still attack us, let us somehow melancholy, and can not be quelled. This pain Let us further efforts to escape.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either we like the same cat Tom, completely misrepresenting their own experience of life in all the important negate facts are ignored; both, we like cat care than the same, simply join their pain, their own anything were very bad, since everything is so bad, sad that their most original event is not so painful.
Baiyun cerebral hospital adviser, said Li Ling, 99% of narcotic consumers had a painful experience. The reason they drugs, in order to make their escape the pain. It's like hide in the shadows, the painful fact is that a devil, the devil in order to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil.
many alcoholic adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, and put the father's many torture. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In addition to these visible
the bad way, we peoples have invented a cloud of of sorts ways to escape anguish, Freud called these means of psychological defense mechanisms. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is needful, but worse, if the perversion of the facts of psychological defense machinery is so intense, it will bring more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social solicitude disorder, multiple individuality, or even schizophrenia.
truly only one path to reach health --- face the pain. Face the pain of people undergoing from a number of abrupt results obtained, they ambition eventually become the life of the celebration of asset.
Remember: shadow and light, are life's wealth.
one of the most important psychological statute, no matter how painful, you are not escape. You can only go gallant face it, resolve it, beyond it, and it reached a final settlement. If you own a short-lived absence of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives to help, alternatively quest professional help, you confidence the person attach you to the face of these painful things.
American psychologist, Rogers was the most lonely person, merely when he determined to face this truth and behind he became a true main of interpersonal relationships; U.S. psychologist Frank has a wild and drunkard stepfather and a bad mommy, but when he challenges the fact and ultimately from the center to forgive his parents, he became one expert in this zone treatment; Japanese psychologists Morita is Mazen is a serious neurological disorder, but along daring the facts and finally invented Morita therapy ... they lives in the most painful fact eventually become their most important wealth. You can do the same.

(e) behavior fable --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to go to cram school abuse. Few years afterward, they all graduated and received his PhD. However, the crab is still rampant, night owls are still slumbering in the daytime activities, bat still hung upside down.

psychological Comments] [It is even famous main
a fable, it's meaning is simple: action important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
phoned mysterious knowledge of psychology. However, more even wisdom of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who studied psychology for many years, they learn psychology, one of the purposes is to rule themselves, but educated after so many years, their problem remains.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is that they do not individually, even now only the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, psychology has been more than those that are not emotional, not appropriate for educate psychology. But the fact that this speculation is not correct. He is not emotional enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a nice knowledge quickly in their own lives to do it. As a result, those distant knowledge becomes a real life experience, he does not
If say, the quality of high sensitivity is a genius, then go-anywhere quality talent is more important.
This fable can also derive another meaning: Do not expect too secret sorcery of psychotherapy. The most important power is always in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential development of mysterious, dazzling success of science, etc., are far minor to the power of your own body has been important. We used to go outdoor to find the answers to others where to find the power, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically save you.
If the punch line of some Lianzhu touched you, if some txt or a new creed inspired you. So, these people's words and experience are just the beginning, more importantly, you think you really use a good knowledge of your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have all considered the most important:
you must start. If you do not go in depth with a affirmative love life, if you do not go their own way to reveal the signification of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain meaningless.

(VI) to give up the fable:

bees and flowers wilted roses, the bees are still hard to suck, because it previously had from a flower in the suck sweet takes. But now in this little flower, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter, the taste is a big distinction with the before. Thus, bees anger, although, breathe on it the whole world saw up to complain about, and why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating its wings, flying a little higher. At this time, it found, shriveled roses around everywhere is the flowers.

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This is about the love fable, a young language pedagogue is the true emotion.
some time, her disappointment in love, very painful, I always wanted to talk about, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but almost two months later, the absolute time they can not happen to get together.
last time about her, she said: Pain of lost love is still perturbing her, let her trance, can not enjoy the loveliness of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she noticed a little bee on flower juice is. In that instant, her idea lightning camel emerged saying: only fatuous,Nike Shox R3, her words in the bee, of course refers to herself. This moment, she had to give up the truth out of sagacity. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
not easy to give up, give up, especially in love is pain. Because love is young, when our copy of the parent-child relationship. Young children, no matter from which side, are inseparable from Mom and Dad. If a complete refusal of his father and mother, and that manner necrosis for him, this is the final injury and fear. We have experienced know next to nothing of to be father and mother no pain and terror, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once another we experience the pain and alarm, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, likened to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, we can not, entire parents have the last mention; but now, we grow up, we have the power to choose their own fate. It can be said, infancy, we have no wings small bees, but immediately we have a pair of powerful wings.
However, when caught up in love, we will return to childhood, we can forget a pair of flying wings. And so we ourselves realize that, the love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, we love to get free, must give up power.
Remember: Love is two things,Nike Shox Sko, two completely equal, independent personality of the person to do. You can work, but not that you worked hard on there will be results, because another person, you are not around.
So, no matter how much you care about a love, if dissimilar person resolved to leave you, please esteem his alternative.
And also remember, you are no longer childhood, can only let the pain of torture. You have adults, you have a pair of strong wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.

(g) close fable: the unique Rose

Little Prince has a small planet, the planet of sudden blossom of a blooming rose. Previously, on this planet only a few unknown flowers, the little prince had never watched such pretty flowers, he fell in love with the rose, cautiously nurtured her.
that fhardly everme time, he thought, this is a unattached flower on globe, only he is the only planet, other places do not exist.
However, he came to Earth and base that there is a garden equitable the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an mediocre flower.
the starting, this breakthrough, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, even although the earth has countless roses, but his planet tis is still peerless for tis roses, he poured over, took off her hood cover, with the shade protection over , in adding to her body of caterpillars, but also hear to the Yuan Yi and her claim to listen to her muffle ... ... In short, he obedient her, and she tamed him, she is his distinctive roses.


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This is a psychological art, France
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we empty the increasingly popular We are impatient to have
. As if, for each has been a rose, the worth of their own lives Duoliaoyifen. Internet old, with several ten lover, is no longer too infrequent thing. But I know who these theatrical, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will fast lose amuse in this intimate relationship. the stronger the lust to vanquish, the faster the loss. attractive.
However, the relationship among the United States, they are almost the level of commitment and the tame class. When two people are indeed going into, surely being tamed, the relationship will become a life nutrition, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no matter how intimate. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still the roses, they are still two individuals. Rose not to peregrination if the little prince, little prince or non-travel carry around the roses, they must stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: both a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than one thousand common. This relationship will bring us a sense of isolation from the hopeless rescue, the most important in our lives is a salvation.
If you never experienced, you can not know the relationship of the United States.