This book is in October 1998, a month's time I write out of inhalation. Recall that the dominating mood: Jinger (first wife) died of heart afflict also; just returned from the United States of NLP Diploma NLP University graduate level behind eagerness; see the daily weeklies, journals, television coverage, full of tragic stories , whether adults or the children involved, the reasons behind all the parties in the process of growing children, not to establish a good mental health. At that time, I have accumulated many experience in a number of instructors NLP courses, but also privately accepted the cases of some psychological counseling. Students and by those who see the guide has improved, rejoicing, but also can not help but think about the root causes of their problems. A conclusion is the same: a child growing up, did not develop a good mental health.
and Jinger's kin life, there are numerous unhappy location. In the two and among the two with the kids, there are a lot of problems, mostly my responsibility. After 20 annuals of matrimony in 1992, I adjoined the NLP, know thatthe opener to the solution, yet a lot of asset, whatever, it is already also late. Reflect ashore my own source of the problem, the conclusion remains the same: in my children growing up, did not develop a nice cerebral health.
I see: either NLP or do I teach how effective counseling are just a short-lived solution only. Babies born today, 30 years after I still find learning NLP or counseling for him, unless the child was growing up, to bring up a good mental health. Thought of this, the heart of a power flowed, the result is that the child's book.
most of the parents, is act its mind and strive for one goal: to make children grow up best. But, they constantly fail to look forward to hard work results, as they thought, speech and behavior, by the orthodox culture,
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there are still some parents do not even muse I need to change. Appear unsuccessful for life, not happy, they are blaming outer factors: society, earth, administration, mores, vogue, work oppression, the World Wind (Kusakabe), the context, other people, even establish a good mental health, that is, weakness in character. Character of a person can not do without, because he needed a character to deal with every moment in life appears to do. But that is not to make the character maintain that he has improved to make their own changes. Children always begin from a vacant canvas. The chief source of his learn is his parents, if parents have not changed, children will only inherit the same thought and behavior patterns.
this writing, there is no bookstore in the circumstance of consignment, even selling the 6000, actually wondered me. This is indeed not because I jot well (I have a little self-knowledge), but because this wisdom is naturally a top precedence today's society; parents need to understand and simple to do some of the conceptions and techniques. My second book, (NLP - help become more successful and merry life of learning) successfully into a bookstore, this parent-child book can also be a outcome of the wider market exposure. I decided to behave a comprehensive amendment of the content. Mr Wilson Cheng joined illustrations to make the book glamor. I also thank Miss Chen Huiya Mr. Huang Guanchang re-layout and sale work.
A lot of people's life, are many the clash of infancy. Every daytime children are worth our care, let us love with the right to treat our children.
NLP based parenting beliefs
1, the child is born, they love,
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2, then the wrong behavior of children is not for parents.
3, parents give their children love naught another can substitute.
4, children continue to learn, even when he was disturbed when they are the worst.
5, each child has made him a successful and happy life with all the necessary capabilities, the parents just to have this ability to help him loosen.
6, the child's comprehension and aptitude are normal, nevertheless he did not concern almost what parents care about.
7, whichever act is not equivalent to the whole folk.
8, there is always a better way, only to find that the parents willing to give.
9, parents of every child to grow the biggest determinant of results.
10, all of the improvement of parent-child relationship, we must first get down to parents,
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Parents amuse remember:
desire to be different children, parents must be in their thoughts, speech, behavior and emotional statement is different.
they are not prepared to change, but want to change the child's parents are not successful.
correct attitude of parents
for personality in the face of a child, parents should use the correct attitude to look at their identity:
(1) Parents not Superman, not faultless people, parents fair ordinary people. Therefore, parents need to recognize their own:
· will conquer, will fail.
· the mood is good, but also in a bad mood.
· than some clever than some people stupid.
· ability in a number of things, in some other feeble things.
· can not have everything you want.
· can never be wrong.
(2) parents and children have the same needs. Because either parents and children, so:
· parents ambition to be adored at others; children for well.
· parents want to be treated fairly; children as well.
· parents want others to their kind, friendly; children as well.
· parents want to do well when something appreciates; children as well.
· parents want to do well, it was the understanding and encouragement; children as well.
· When pain, worry, depressed, when parents want to support friends and comfort; children as well.
(3) parents of the child's parents is always, always give the child love and assist. So:
· children succeed, parents share the delight.
· kids happy, parents feel happy.
· children proceed to learn and progress, parents persist to be encouraged and appreciated.
· down pick back up each child, parents must support it.
(4) parents with discourse and behavior to fulfill the above cause, so said and done the same:
· in front of children, parents need not always right, successful, happy.
· parents are not fearful of the children admit its blunders.
· the face of the child, parents do not conceal the inner emotions.
· parents do not must anxiety that their child will thus transform vulnerable.
parents in a normal, easy way to show that he / she is such, is ample to go through their life junket, the children will surely genuine, confident and positive attitude to build their lives .
ten basic tips for parent-child relationship
(a) no two people are the same.
◎ No two people are absolutely consistent view of the same thing, so children of different views and you,
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◎ children must have some place better than you, and your strong points, not all children have.
◎ everyone's faiths, values and rules are different. So you can not inquire your child has a entirely different role.
◎ respect other people's distinctions, people will respect their solitary place. You can accept the child's different, he will accept your opinion of him.
◎ human in a matter tin not be presumed in the other human will have the same results. So your experience is a reference to the child, but does not necessarily vouch that the decree is right alternatively feasible.
(b) a person can not control another person
◎ one can not change another person. Change themselves, their children will likely make the fitting changes.
◎ a person can not Therefore, there is no to approve dissimilar set. children have their own set. understand his set, from his point of outlook, it is maximum likely to accept your attitude.
(c) The meaning of communication depends on the other side's response
◎ what is not said to myself, what is important to hear each other. always accented that he did not say how the correct use, the child receives a message averaged for him what was important.
◎ heard by the child to understand, to accept the language of talking to him will have the greatest effect.
◎ words have no effect controlled by the speaker, the listener decide. the child's response tell you to say no effect, you can change the words of the txt and method to control effects.
◎ way to change that, have a accident to change the hearing results. no achieve contention, the more that child will be more do not accept the results aggravate.
(d) the child is to follow the parent's behavior and emotions, and not the parents instructions
◎ parents in dealing with the behavior of one thing, the children saw, the next times will follow suit.
◎ children see their parents while faced with a position reacts, it will speculation that it is correct. and the same thing in their face will make the same answer.
◎ speech or writing their own child's body and idea can not produce a learning effect in behavioral or emotional responses. so little effect educating manner exercise.
◎ parent's instructions, if children do no comprehend the language prototype with the publish, will so namely the baby namely difficult apt follow. have to 1st consider the child would not know, it fixes the prologue.
(e) All acts must have its affirmative motivation
◎ everybody to meet their interior Some need to do things. all acts of the child has its positive significance, but he does not know can not mention.
◎ parents need to divide the child's behavior and motivation. the ecology of children's behavior is wrong or ineffective We should be denied, but the children always try to attempt to upgrade their knowledge and ability, we must be sure that his motivation for this.
◎ discovered that the child's positive motivation behind the act, to be sure, in guiding children to find another more effective approach, this is the easiest path to accept your child.
◎ emotion and motivation are not wrong, but the choice of approach failed to achieve the lusted results. feelingful strength or the direction of the child, the child would like to retain motivation improve the heart, to help children to identify effective train is the responsibility of the parents.
(f) a better way, everyone will follow
◎ refused to change because never find a better methods. children must understand that their method is more effective, he would accept, and thus change.
◎ grant a person to another way to make him understand more, and cost fewer, that people naturally using that method. children are like everyone, continue to work on this point.
◎ better reach is to help, that is, more choices to each other; clarify a method must be used, but it is an offer to manipulation of each other. all are greet to help withstand manipulation. your children are also welcome your help, but will withstand your control.
(g) There should all be by least 3 solutions at present
◎ not successful, just that the methods used as yet has not been the anticipated results. of the child must cling to the results, preferably than insisting on methods.
◎ merely believe there is an effective method known, will have the opportunity to ascertain it and make entities change.
◎ on one thing we know way speed up, we do get cracking the greater; because children, too, the more you prefer, your child achieve the results you want, the more likely Great.
(h) the growth process is a studying process
◎ children to attempt differ approaches, is to work to find the best one.
◎ happens in children from learning, so he knows how to deal with hereafter experience the same thing.
◎ children to keep trying current methods in order to know which one is best.
◎ strange about the child's life, it is to learn how to grip extra.
(IX) ought help children to grow up and not substitute children grow
◎ any attempt to replace children grow up, will eventually be made in the negative effects of the child's body. Children can not learn, reliance and absence of confidence will be.
◎ parents on behalf of the children to do the things kids do not get the respect of the child. dependent children love their parents would complain and find mistake.
◎ encourage and navigate the children to do their own thing , is the most effective way to help children grow. so that the child can have the ability to grow and can take care of themselves.
◎ child's spontaneous, positive opinion, self-discipline, are narrated with this point because they need from the to do their own thing source. so the child must have no mistrust that this adore.
◎ The language of love, if the parents have shown with the conditions, then the child will have the tall degree of parent-child relationship in doubt. because of this love , parent-child relationship is the foundation and pillar.
◎ If this love to do someone because the child lost the case, the child will become scale up do not care about it, that is, do not care about the parent-child relationship. Therefore, do not regard what conditions it out to do.
◎ parents if their children out conditions to this love as a bargaining piece, the children will be the future of the parents love the most chips. today's society, many parent-child relationship completely broken, it is for this reason. order main concepts of a part, the parents as the correct attitude for the second, ten basic tips for parent-child relationship three, four ideal family environment, on the growth and the need to teach a child head development Second, the five stages of mental development children three,
GHD Classic Straighteners, 4 elderly 0 to 6, 6 to 12 years antique five six-over 12, how to help children build self-worth seven children 10 to 12-year-old fourth part deals with changes in emotional skills the child of a preamble, exchange type II, Type III discipline, chilly type four, five didactic type, EQ type VI,
GHD IV Salon Straighteners, EQ type Seven deal with child emotional skills, parent-child Case Discussion Chapter emotional teaching of a family of basic tips in EQ II, what is emotional intelligence (EQ) Third, how to help children develop enough EQ four, and five favorite things wreck, and others to determine between Six conflict, responsibility VII, to help children construct self-confidence, self-love and self-esteem Chapter VI good and effective introduction of a parent-child relationship skills, the correct appreciation of the child's method two, attach with the children's activities (maximal time) Third, to improve communication between parents and four children should not listen to the kids and how to do six reiterated orders not to help the children to listen to the words of parents, seven, eight rules for how to keep children, training parents to disburse attention to the good behavior of nine children, disburse attention to the activities of ten children like , parent-child relationship first aid kit - Why do not you like to learn three, children's learning - the left head and right brain Fourth, the child's educate - five competitive intellect, three inside the six-sensory ability to learn how to improve the learning ability of children seven or 8 children go to school , 9 sufferers of the schooling system, the different beliefs of ten children's education, to meet the challenges of Chapter VIII of the Elimination of the psychological pressure of parents in the family of mutual belief and shared values second, breaking the vicious surround of three, four to take the lead in a bad mood, relieve stress five six other effective methods of decompression, the decompression method is invalid on the marital problems of Chapter IX of the parents of the intended presentation of a marriage the parents of two have not yet broken, parents have separated or divorced three, four unattached parents in decease of the mate, children and daughter's letter to the Appendix
Parent-child relations in a comprehensive skills
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