Today’s post is by Patricia Morgan, speaks and leads workshops on Solutions for Resilience. This is an adapted from her book,
Office 2010 Professional Plus, “From Woe to WOW: How Resilient Women Succeed at Work.”
We all crave to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Whether I say that to individuals, groups or large audiences, heads nod in the affirmative.
When I first began working in a counseling agency,
Windows 7, I was thrilled with the supervision. My manager smiled, nodded and listened as I worked out my problems through non-stop, extroverted talking. As I exited from his office, I would turn, thank him for his time and he would respond with a generous laugh and a big “You’re most welcome.” I left notes of appreciation on his desk and the occasional homemade muffin.
I was surprised, therefore,
Microsoft Office 2010, when I learned that long-time employees felt frustrated by his lack of wise guidance. The lesson? Acknowledgement and a sense of gratitude improve working conditions whether it is sent or received by employees or management.
“Sawu Bona” is a South African greeting which literally means, “I see you.” Its deeper meaning is “because you are there, I exist,” that “without each other, we literally do not exist.” Imagine what your workplace would be like if this acknowledgment was genuinely sent and received on a daily basis.
Appreciation is a key ingredient for a thriving workplace, but one that is undervalued by many organizations. This is the conclusion from countless management experts and research projects. In “How Full is Your Bucket? Positive Strategies for Work and Life,” Tom Rath and Donald Clifton said that the main reason most North Americans leave their jobs is that they don’t feel appreciated. They also noted that 65% of Americans say they receive no recognition at work.
Appreciation has the biggest impact when it is given randomly. B.F. Skinner discovered that random reinforcement more strongly anchors behaviors than consistent reward. Consider how we view bosses who arrange a surprise on Administrative Assistants’ Day compared to a boss who for no reason acts with a gesture of appreciation. It’s similar to gestures of affection in intimate relationships. Compare the romantic scale of a single rose gifted on Valentine’s Day with one given on an ordinary day.
Here are 10 tips for building a culture of acknowledgment at your work.
Minimize negative words and phrases such as “can’t,” “but,” “no,” “never,” “always,
Microsoft Office 2007 Enterprise,” “should” and “impossible.” Avoid saying “You are …” followed by “wrong,
Windows 7 Serial,” “incompetent,” “at fault” or any other blame-throwing words. Remind yourself that most of us are doing the best we can. Listen first to discern what is going on for the other person. Acknowledge feelings. Feelings are never right or wrong. Acknowledge people’s best intentions. If you don’t know what they intended, assume that their intentions were to do no harm. Note and comment on people’s accomplishments and strengths. Act as if you are a cheerleader or a supportive coach. Learn to watch and listen with a sense of gratitude. Express appreciation.
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