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69004 2010 年 08 月 02 日 10:23 Reading (loading. ..) Comments (2) Category: Personal Diary
a lot of people mingled now nothing, or think nothing. There are a lot of people mingled feeling now is a failure, or unsuccessful. There are a lot of people mingled now flies to feel boring, had a very mechanical, flies have not thought and heart. We admire the success of every person in society, the envy of the rich people around, the envy of the cars roaring past every one around. We often have this thought: Damn, how I fared so badly?
Yes ah, how I fared so badly? Year class (around) as my guy how now so advanced? Keep your eyes
sour, let me tell you how mixed society.
this only for friends struggling in terms of mixed society, that work hard, take much money, status is not high, many injured, the former no way out of no backing, the future lost, goals for a class of persons missing .
one, friends.
1, mixed society, the basic configuration.
person's life, not a hundred years alone, there must be friends, if you want a qualified civilians, as long as the law-abiding, and that making friends with your temper, you are willing to pay to pay, do not want to let him roll . But you want to mix something for the community to, you have to selectively friends, there are utilitarian to friends. For the average people, circle of friends at least have to have a doctor, a lawyer, a small official, a policeman, a teacher, a local ruffians and hooligans.
why I say that, in fact, these friends, the usual basically do not need, the general circle of friends more than co-workers, classmates, neighbors, because we usually deal with friends, drinking with friends to sing a bath, also the circle, and if there is no definite purpose, who will contact a lawyer to intentionally or a rogue it?
doctors, lawyers, police, teachers, seem to rarely used these common friends, the key point is to save your urgent or difficult, and some can save your life! To the hospital, a doctor friend is worth celebrating, save the innocent Aizai fee is small, rational drug use materials for you to contact his own heart, superb medical skills clearly a good doctor to help you see the doctor this is not true lack of help. The role of lawyers, we should all know that the key you are in trouble luck, he can pull you a strong one. Needless to say police are often mixed in society, how can I not wet shoes, cars were detained, the person checked out, basically these things have a Council friend to help you, you do not eat much burned. The role of the teacher after the friends have children at home is concerned, is undoubtedly enormous.
Some people say that the police know of these useless teachers of general practitioners, for example, you see a physician, ENT friends can not help; you want to help the son of tuition English language teacher does not take. Raised these issues are doomed in the community fared relatively low-level people. Are these people do not have their own circle of friends? ENT friend he can not find the medicine's friends? Colleagues in school no one language teacher to teach English? The same time you contact these friends, in fact, with his circle of friends who happened intersection. To recognize that more prospective middle class, then why are not you a better chance?
officials, rogue. An official with friends, even friends of the benefits of a grass-roots civil service number, I think people know the Earth. On this basis, the official the better, corresponding, at will into the smaller the probability of a friend. As for why there must be a rogue troll friends, many people do not understand, is actually very simple at this stage of society, a lot of things in daily life, with these friends to solve, than any other methods are much more simple and effective, but not without limited use of his side effects are quite large, not only with costs is not possible, consider how the specific price, please precise calculation.
For a more luxurious configuration, to have the better, such as the circle of friends, there are rich, more than seven officials of goods, has a boss, a second-generation ancestor, there is a fork length of cattle, and then there is Bill such as the circle of friends Gates has Obama, then it's no mixed society, called the play community.
2, how you want to make friends handed.
Nothing, I am afraid scheming people. Handed friends to close friends at once, this is impossible, but if you carefully designed, at least can make more general fair-weather friends, and friends for the utility is able to achieve
friends no secret, only Jiuzhuo and loving ears. Both are friends of the shortcut down the entire table wine, at least Lianshu, the words of the, several drink down, not a ######## friend is a pseudo-brothers. For some people, to pay down his hobby down, never miss. People live in the world, impossible not to love, if you think a man does not love, it means you did not. He likes to eat and drink, eat and drink with him; he likes to sing and dance, singing and dancing with him; he likes to play innocent mounted art, poetry and songs to accompany him. Such and such times, he does not bring you worry about is known to have been, at least is also enthusiasts.
the details to make friends also have two, and willing to listen, if you will point the wind blows much the better. Willing to be willing to respect money, you want the intersection useful friends, but also extremely stingy, then had to ask you to continue struggling. Another point is to listen, this is actually very important, why do you like the leadership meetings? Because there are a lot of people listen to his speech is too cool, why do psychologists and each patient at almost as a friend? Because they can hold back the urge patients not pumping endless anti audience can come up with a look to with relish. Increasingly fast-paced society, more and more selfish people, how many sick people willing to listen to you making a fuss over there? When did you learn to speak less boring, more patience to listen, your shrewdness be considered somewhat small deep, your friends will be more and more.
As to how to recognize these friends of different industries, said it incredible, is really very simple. Americans have done a very interesting experiment, they want to see a random number of layers between ordinary people to be recognized by the entertainment in a star or a top political figures, numerous tests shows that a random stranger and a maximum of eight-relations, we can find the movie stars or politicians. Relationships were essentially similar to the friend of a friend's father, aunt, nephew understanding of star neighbors and the like. But what is certain is that everyone can find them through the layers of relationship! Stars still can be found through the efforts, not to mention ordinary people of various industries? Or the old saying goes: Nothing is difficult for one person shenanigans.
3, how to weave their own network of relationships for the nodes.
resources to master so many friends, if left unused or used only when it is critical to pity. Hunde any wind and water in the community, he must be the best of both worlds, at least on the surface of the eyes he is capable of civilians, can be done, most people can not do some of the events, most people can not find find people. Such a person is good at weaving a Spider --- his own as a network of nodes.
So how to weave this net? Said simply, is Qian Kun Da Nuo + grafting the group, the relationship with a friends help friends do B, then C B friends of friends to do the relationship thing. Words are good, it sounds beautiful, actually do it particularly annoying, a bad on both sides are easily offended. So most people find it troublesome, so most people are civilians. This weaving a net, a large consumption of energy, but once formed, you are good enough for the infinite. When you pull the bridge take the line, the more careful measurement and careful action, make some more success stories, unconsciously, you will find that your ability to act beyond your thinking ability.
PS: never any of the provisions and principles of superstition. Road King Infrastructure Chairman Wei Pao once said a few insinuations: Never bow to concessions in the face of difficulties, the world is any difficulty you must have a walk through to go around to the road. I like this sentence, but also do a lot of difficulties and requirements in the face of seemingly insurmountable problems, but always find a way through or around or walk or go.
4, how to maximize their own interests.
utilitarian purpose of dating is to achieve investment in the real minimum and maximum benefit. Some generous friends like someone else, but because they have difficult people face little to seek help, which is a completely silly. Friends of the basic role is to help each other, even from one level to maintain in terms of help each other is also a friend of the bond. You know a friend, just want to help him, let him help himself, you want to die I Lei Feng Lei? In fact, if you're asked for the help of friends, friends will help you when the next time you peace of mind, it will not have awkward exchanges or tweaking. Times more than one, friends will be able to develop into deep friend. This is a subtle psychological relationship, a lot of good use.
Another situation is, you need ten thousand tons a friend accidentally smoking media, your friends just to sell B media without marriage, but B did not know. In this case, how would you do? A buddy said, this easy to get Well, They know not to introduce into? Then I would like to congratulate the man, you have half as Wu Bai was.
the correct approach is emphasized in a friend in front of all the difficulties, but they will try any help him to fight; stressed in front of friends all the difficulties and B, but they will fight to try any help to him. You play karate, make pen post, incidentally, two more die-hard friends.
other things, to carry out, long past, certainly revealed the secret. Therefore, to analyze the situation, the selective implementation of maximum benefit.
PS: the examples, very simple, but really is not easy to do everything. Playing with fire, walk a tightrope to play out a hierarchy of levels, which can be called themselves, and fared handy.
5, how friends treated differently.
order is basically this: a true friend
Chicken Soup true friend is one that everyone needs, but not necessarily everyone can really have. Every life can turn in one or two can be. Which if I really have a dozen friends, that friend of your heart too much.
friends talk about anything that is in you unconditionally pull you a desperate, is the first one in your cell phone number, your car breaks down in the middle of the night phone call to wake him halfway to the quasi- , is that you find prostitutes was arrested after the first thought that a guarantor.
not Need Friends That said, what the real estate owner, the party secretary and the like. Are you sure he is your friend after this is called best. . .
friends like best buddies, in particular, to play that kind of relationship second only to true friends, the number is very rare. This friend is a friend to lend him money, as the relationship between the amount of depth given the number of loans.
refers above utilitarian friends friends.
range of general and general friends and acquaintances can also call ordinary friends. From strange bedfellows to a nodding acquaintance, and generally can be called friends, most of these friends can not borrow money, but a small amount of money, that opinions should not even think back to the kind of lending.
Second, the quality of mixed cultivation of society itself.
1, how to treat their own quality
mentioned this problem, a lot of friends will not help to think of education, work experience, job skills, certificates, returnees, achievements, poetry and painting, etc. respected in society,
fact, the inertia of your education by traditional thinking wrong! Mixed society, everyone is not nothing. Everyone has their own unique skills. Give a simple example, can drink is a skill!
the Its greatest role is to society you are a stepping stone of a door, it can prove, but you used to be a very small range is excellent, since you can not prove it completely in the community value!
we often see in the example of a unit of society, people may grumble: MD, I graduated from key universities, the ability to highlight excellent work, how to compare that so and so flattering to be useless. In fact, can be understood that the focus of your college diploma, with a mix flatterer will and leadership, not completely over, in your place in the small environment, you are the only skills that are not suitable for this small environment The. This is rather cruel, some frustrating, but I only speak with the facts, after all, social education with school education is very different.
I want to say is: Why do you always complaining? Why can not you do a diploma with key institutions, the ability to highlight the work of outstanding lackey it?
a friend disdain the following: cutting, garbage, I'd rather be, will not do this outrageous incident.
flatterers do not fallen, and flatterer is not a dirty word.
some friends or some self-esteem, . . . These words are a bit extreme, I think people who want to discover their own strengths and weaknesses, you said you would play cards are the advantages or disadvantages?
and others at the friends you want, but you learn a few years ago Zhigu actively avoid Wanwusangzhi, never touch the cards, online games, table tennis these seemingly boring things. So like you do not, I would like to ask in the community, what is a silver tongue will point people tend to place friends, or you do not touch that smart people tend to place of entertainment? A friend also said
to learn first, other second bad it? As you say, I play good Guzhe.
Do not be so understanding, I would say most people are ordinary people in society, study books, this road is only suitable for very few players of genius, you can not do the scientific community who ultimately have to fall into mortal , in the mortal world, will play cards and certificates in English six times as important! The reason why the first book you will know to learn this truth, your parents and teachers taught the students the results of long-term, but took to the community before, you do not know the question.
In this section the end, I used the facts speak for themselves.
listing the ancient kings, you will find that the basic two parts, in part, hereditary, that is, mouth, Golden Key was born as kings, part of the roots of the most vulgar people, many of them man of pleasure, poor wretch, rogue local ruffians. They have nothing, so daring Ganpin, they lost no loss, so there are big courage, they have no knowledge but the wisdom so and succeed. Those very smart, to read, read good books, but enough to live comfortably in the community made a fortune can not people doing? Doing advisers, doing civil officials, are doing grand. Zhuge Liang Wu emperor with the class why not, chieftains?
Similarly, the community is now the big fortunes of the owner, chairman of the board are backing what? Several Peking University Tsinghua University? Under the leadership of junior doctor and then normal. But a closer look to them, except for that part of the hereditary, the first generation of entrepreneurs, the basic qualification is not too high, there is also the day after tomorrow Is this not explain the problem?
I am not like everyone achievements to their height, their height does not simply come by their own hard times the opportunities the environment, their opportunities for small environment is indispensable. I'm just that one, the vast society, highly educated does not mean that high-quality, high amount of alcohol does not mean quality, not one thing that is constant, with leading high-tech employers are accompanied by leadership of appreciation and be led to drink the boss boss appreciation of the interests of both findings and is exactly the same, the key is the second point, how to locate the play to their quality, how to identify the location of their fields!
2, how to position their own quality
people's quality depends on many aspects, but in mixed society, the self-respect, good character is the first one, but out in the IQ second. Improve many aspects of the character but also, generally speaking one is calm and collected, and second, how the wind blows. Calm and collected is for their own emotions, feelings, personality timely and appropriate control, a clear understanding of their abilities, clearly know each occasion the role, not to exceed, not retreat, try to play their role to best. The wind blows is the observation of others, observing others in exchanges of character, ability, strengths and weaknesses, what is clear the other stuff, so choose an appropriate response. Hard to do these two points, in particular, to control their own, really hard, from the little things, these two points as a habit, as time goes by, you will gradually mature in the eyes of others.
Tip: first out of college, and inexperienced people who often feel deeply do not know how people with all kinds of dealings with the community, I feel like if a lot of peers, can with some other roles, such as the boss, elders, rent people like truck drivers, and so no topic, often a number of scenes, some people even know the first time to talk as if people are particularly speculative, and you seem to do very little about. This situation is normal, everyone is starting from this step, where I do not want to teach you what to look for common ground the two sides go down the other side ah ah like the words of the complexity of the method, one of the most simple method, is to see a special friend how his speech will be social, how one by one topic leads. First is to see, and learn, imitate, the last test, even if the points have nothing wrong, stick to it, long past, your skills will be a rapid unconsciously.
this state when you reach maturity, you will be more sensible to look at the quality of their own, do not despise myself, but never look at high-yourself wearing on someone else to know true and false flattery, slander others contempt if you can full of confidence. On this basis, do basically very measured piece and learn to plan effectively promoting stable.
step is higher than the mature sophisticated than the ways of the world is a little more into the Jian Hua, Jianhua more than a layer is that you do not know, can not see who he is. This is called the fine people who are generally larger bureaucracy and business for sale.
Another is the positioning of their work. Not bad work, only the wrong location, this sentence is correct, but did not make any sense. Like I say you are humans, right, but not meaning. A lot of people out of school, found himself in the context of the study could not find work; some work done for some time and found that they can not tolerate this kind of work. Then, we will be looking for work not to look for counterparts, looking for work do not find their favorite among the struggling, wandering.
have a good idea for everyone in this community out of the university's postgraduate research results, any of a first class university can not be found. Twenty-year-old
volatile industry before, the three-year-old before the volatile work, thirty-year-old is not easily fixed after the winter pen. Twenty-year-old before
uncertain industry. This means that even if your university is on the garden professional, do not necessarily have after the catch point in the relationship between the environment, chances are good you will play the first-hand piano, which bars employment your hands for the piano, which is the kind of work do not have to regret University of white on the the like, in the current China, the skills of the University greatly reduced, a computer science students, graduates may not know where the memory plug, write a simple loop program; a medical class of students, learning four-year internship year may not match the harvest. Twenty-five years ago, in one area can re-learn, re-started, and failed only because the young can afford.
three-year-old former uncertain work. Three-year-old, you have to identify an industry, such as the selling of stainless steel or when a teacher is to be a painter, because these industries require a lot of time and effort to become familiar with and master, but the work place and time is not fixed, You can quit again after careful consideration, until you find one you satisfied with the unit, the company team. Because although you are not too young, but you do not pay, you can afford to toss.
thirty-year-old is not easily fixed after the winter pen. Thirty-year-old, your way of life is not much in the case of an accident, the basic shape, nor do I believe that you are the one area you have some of their own prestige and status. Most importantly, the stability of your family, children born, the parents gradually decline, and you gradually become the backbone of the family. In this case, caution is certainly not a bad thing.
above are general rules, if there are special circumstances, for the non-mainstream, will not go into details.
a friend asked, I have such and such a skill, I have such and such a capacity, you see I can do? That is not good responses, each person is not get the same opportunities, Peking University graduates can sell pork. Comprehensive analysis of their own character and ability to see something they are not dry the material, such as the Internet is also a night out to buy bread, when the supper, it was a buy and run, think of the game and ate side; some people are concerned about today cake thickness and size, they are not buying a deficit; the one who took note of recent business selling cakes are particularly good, can not help earn him calculate the number today, except the monthly net profit after cost, but also look around the stalls there are similar, how much traffic, how many people buy bread, so a bunch of data. Congratulations to last the students, a little business your mind, why the Chinese rarely KFC closed down, its market research and preliminary research that you do come.
3, how to develop their own quality
First of all I want to ask a very old problem: If you paralyzed tomorrow, you reflect on the previous time, who does not regret?
I think most people would regret in some ways more or less. Some people regret not learn, some people saw the girl regret not to bubble to get started, it was a regret not to seize the opportunity.
numerous articles are telling you, regrets are useless, and to look forward. Which was a nonsense, sorry do not know who did not use? The key is how do you feel regret, I think even if you've been playing online games the past, neglected their studies, barren of love. It is not regret, because you get to enjoy playing the game, get happy. How many people are looking for can not find a simple pleasure, you can have, is enough. Life after all, is the ultimate fun, absolutely do not want to work hard as a normal rush of years, how much time is your own it? I do not advise you negative, the fact that you Drug use is the ultimate pleasure, but the cost of this to burn the joy of life desirable, alcohol, tobacco of the same nature, hereby notice.
so after the events of the past do not regret it all depends on your understanding, in fact, I always feel that God is fair, it shut your window, will open a door for you. For example, we often sympathize with people with intellectual disabilities, that they are poor, in fact, their hearts pure, there is happiness far more than you and me.
sure I do not regret it later, do not want you to go to indulge, but you throw away the mental burden of properly mixed. From now on, to find a higher level of enjoyment and work.
when you do not regret the mentality to go I think back, you can clearly see their character, weaknesses, past failures to understand, to the maximum extent possible the journey in the future to avoid failure. Remembrance is a review and summary, and in addition to bringing you down outside regret nothing can.
I like some of the young people encountered many setbacks, they look realistic compared to peers, mature, strong and much more smoothly the children who usually seemed more aggressive, arrogant, vulnerable. I even suggested that small to large are This failure is not a test of the second kind of freak, can not afford the expensive failure of bag, but you almost can destroy the spiritual pillar of the kind of bitter, get up from this pool of blood in the reconstruction of the spiritual support of children is very strong The. Language is very bloody, but focuses on the importance of failure and frustration reminded. Once a successful person always fail against larger, perhaps for ever stand up.
many young people now have a anxiety, they always want the fastest success or to be successful, always wanted to seize the opportunity to immediately turn over from the current difficult situation, they always think of the great work, entrepreneurial passion that is always the word extremely.
I do not want to blow this precious passion, but I really hope you can make full preparations, including details of any one of the most important thing is preparation for failure to do once. Not enough for entrepreneurs in terms of experience, detailed plans than some so-called specious opportunity is more important.
said so much foreshadowing, I specifically talk about how to put actual combat in the community of the quality of their own. Progress in society, progress in actual combat in the community, university president said at the graduation ceremony --- note that in terms of graduation, not the opening ceremony, society is not absolutely fair; community will not wait for you to grow! It can not control your school and society in a major psychological gap.
one is to choose the right skills, such as the one you are migrant workers from rural areas, you should have this sense that if I engaged in this work, in addition to money, what can I get? I've seen some people do in an electronic factory job, is to plug into one of several electronic components on the board, every day, day after day. Such work can bring you pay, the other little, day plant down, you still follow disband. This kind of life even a hundred years, you still can not an ordinary one of the migrant workers. Must have a sense of learning, must have a sense of learning skills climb, year Ah, and Asan, an electronics factory to do such work, to do an apprentice welding school, five years later, or e-Ah Factory workers, Asan Institute of alloy steel welding, high pass rate, his salary and status far more than the A II. This is promising work and study with the crystal.
know what I mean by it? Even if you do only the work of the bottom, you should try to find something to work and learn with a strong desire to learn, in addition to the lottery, this is your chance to turn around the most realistic.
second is the potential to learn. Some people are less patient, as is always done in a short time, learn things are turning back, this is the most taboo practices in the company, units in the hard work, to learn the skills learned slowly, holding the certificate of the in turn won, the company that you hopping cursed boss, the unit in the shade that always give you the head not to play stupid, hard enough to bear when you can grow up slowly, you will find him for you attitude is slowly transformed, because he found it was important to you. And this time you look at the outside, N number of companies are waving to you, not the dream of a higher paying job. In the morning one day, you wear a suit and politely to a resignation letter on the boss before, his face never more than you were after an argument with him, refused to go when you slam doors and much more cool .
I believe that if you select the right goals, perseverance, sweat and tears pay a considerable, your harvest will definitely value for money. And I said, basically all we can do.
person's life before the age of forty four major turning point in terms of, education, employment, marriage, career.
small studies in the University, nothing to talk about, in addition to the autonomy of the university you are more or less, the other arrangements for your parents first, second, you do not have to choose. Is that you can take the skills learned in school to learn good skills or master the skills of a few people will, which is very good for your future development. The problem is not at this stage how many young people are willing to pay, we thought not mature enough to plan to four-year-old after a dozen two-year-old boy, will not have so many things to consider, pass the exam, crazy fun, love friends, not enough time to sleep these few do, how can so much energy to seriously study skills. An electronic information engineering, and in the end have mastered the matter sorted chip technology designed by the teacher and make very few experiments, and these people go out after paying all real talent. But the key is that very few people do this, the pay is too much sweat, this, as long as anyone knows who the profession.
As for what is good skills, this really can not compare the income of Chinese Academy of Sciences won a school may not have more than five years of carpentry contractors to the general situation, the personal view, is not the focus of universities compared with first-class The following is not important, important is a good professional, a good professional on the road in the community will be very broad, and a first-class professional popular university, having failed to make in the community is the. Such as Peking University's archaeological expertise and Economic Investigation of a Police Academy class professional. . . This means, you know?
choice or study skills, is the first turning point in your life. But very few people will take this turning point, are age and experience to reach, then stand sits a confused parent, you probably threw a broad road from the foot of the trail was. Worse, this situation is too much.
So, so, when you set foot on the turning point when the brothers and sisters, do not forget the horse and rode to send a ride.
Moreover, before the twenty-five years old, this turning point, or in your hands,
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PS: picking a major, there is a most important point, many people tend to ignore! Before the choice of profession, the first professional to see how the fire is by no means how easy this job more popular. The first thing to do is: to sort out family relationships all over, regardless what the seven eight-aunt, she can count on all to find out, analyze them in power, there is the location of areas in which relatives and friends, followed by analysis to see See if you can find a move, looking to find a move, and have the money and running, as long as the real reliable, and to be able to apply for professional development in his hands! For example, you uncle in a large shipyard when the deputy director, you will analyze whether the next four to five years he was in office, whether there will be an accident --- that these bit cruel, but you have no way to sober analysis, if any, take cover have to report a shipbuilding majors, after the successful employment development will definitely be much more!
employment is also a turning point, someone along the way learning, PubMed doctoral study, the trend out in the artificial lure, the thirty-year-old began to enter into society, get a fairly middle of the career, a look back, next door Seventeen-year-old boy dropped out of school to go out Kenshin to help apparel factory owner opened the car a few years, relied on clever people learned some clothing tips for their home routine and opened a small clothing workshop, and now the whole car mistress of the house. What do you call this? Reading always such in the book, the cost of paying too much in the end still can not successfully complement their best youth, if once destroyed is not considered desirable in this life, and this bet too much. So I strongly suggest you moderate IQ, learning to stop, early employment opportunities in society, in the ivory tower than you the opportunity to much more desperate. Even if you are the location and nature of employment is very bad, as long as you put your heart, definitely have the opportunity to achieve something. Of course, if you do not mind not get good results, do not call me advise you to not pursue a Ph.D. degree, you must enroll in a Ph.D. in so much momentum in the community do you spell that?
not able to find work early, a lot of objective factors, specific treatment depending on the circumstances.
marriage is easy to overlook a lot of people turning point, in fact, this is a very important turning point!
I hope that in college, at the beginning of time through feelings about love, at least, make love (not including unrequited love, stream of consciousness) at this stage in the past, because the first love though beautiful, is the most stupid, the two sides do not have any practical considerations on the future, but for love, this can be good writers appeared, can be used for memory recall, after you are old, regard it as a necessary condition of marriage is absolutely wrong! Some people do not rule out a successful, happy marriage, but this probability can be ignored aside.
very simple, because love is not utilitarian, but I want to teach you is this: marriage is to with a utilitarian! It is the basic shape of your life after a very realistic chance of emancipation, at least the chance of a happy life.
I say, sure there are many people would dispute that you say so, love and marriage, what is the point? A handful of good life, you ruined everything!
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utilitarian I mean, not referring only to economic aspects, but also your mental.
hundreds of years ago,
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a school rich five cars drop out early age woman with a living farming the farmers (not discriminate against farmers, matter-) marriage happy? If happy, it was the film, it was his mother's art. Reality is certainly not happy, why not happiness? Everyone knows the reasons.
On this basis, any difference in the quality too much, can not say hundred percent, at least most of us that a heart would have regretted it. So, to find a little close to the spiritual life partner, right?
I would say focus on the economic front, I'm not very good but the key detail that must rely on you to enlightenment. Nothing, I'm afraid shenanigans, you can achieve in this society on what height, was not cruel enough to see you, whether human, or have been. I can only say, if you can find one you both like, spiritual level, similar to the other party can give you limitless potential or actual benefits of the life (or life?) Mate nice ah! As for the adjective phrase which can remove a few of your own choice.
the turning point, many people think of evil, good people, we try to find a good wife to find a good husband it. Not so extreme. But do not have to fancy the handsome guy or pretty poor poor girl. The turning point is extremely important, remember to remember.
is also an important turning point in career, and employment is different from most of the time we were the employment of employment, forced employment, do not like doing their own work, with I did not like dealing with people.
then a chance of a place outside in front of you, your selective, and this is the career. This is a turning point, many people could meet the specific selection, please refer to the last chapter of the third section.
sum up, I said a few turning points, life is not only a few, but relatively controllable, if you reborn, in the awards and the like can be considered a turning point, then, is right , but this does not make sense. Turning point in these categories are not unique, such as career may have a lot of times, so do not miss a turning point in the air due to, life's long road, there is always the wrong steps, learn more, listen more to remind, to farther and wider.
good health is absolutely critical
first words almost everyone will agree, but in reality I found that almost everyone more or less do not care of their body .
this topic I will not say much, just state once again solemnly solemn solemnly remind you. Do not buy the first four years of life to get money, get money after four years of life. No physical health, your quality of life vanished. Recommended at least once a day to remind himself that he is also healthy, feel the happiness. Do not have any excuse
that if I do not really how to end what will be miserable, there is a long life as long as the experience in bed, your whole outlook on life will change dramatically.
learn empathy
often this attitude as long as you, you will learn tolerance, tolerance, it will make your mind wide extraordinary temperament.
you often complain about the boss of you hard, you often think you are unfair to your friends, but you never ask yourself this question: If the change over, I'm the boss or the other, how would I do? Do not talk nonsense
What if I'm the boss I would give workers a lot of money, put a lot of ######## or something, think about it,
la lights, felt his conscience, if you are the boss, you may even over than he; if you is the other, perhaps worse.
often think so, your anger will gradually calmed down a lot and can understand each other's needs and characteristics, show a more rational attitude towards him.
understanding will help you make more friends, to let everyone in the long-term cooperation in the impression you keep extra points.
but sometimes we will find, even empathy, you will find each other too much, too unreasonable, then, still hesitating? Tougher on him back ah. Understanding by no means blindly patience! Real society, one of only This is also the kind of subtle psychological factors, will specifically talk about the.
to measure the angle from the worst
No matter what parts, we first think of the worst results. This can reduce the success of feverish expectation of the event, after the failure to reduce a strong frustration, the analysis process will help you calm and less over-estimated by their ability to influence. And to think this way, even if fails, you also have a way to grasp the feel and enhance your overall view.
example, you put money into the stock market to do business, you are going to be a subjective this money does not exist, calculate their own possessions, do not, like when Forbes, the market value of securities into the real-time. Unless you immediately discount, or you never know tomorrow how much you this.
objective in a certain range, to their favorable factors as conservative as possible to maximize the difficulties to be encountered, it will make you the best of a serious effort to prepare and make the greatest effort to overcome.
this point as a habit, it brings you the benefits will be enormous.
must be careful look very good chance
we assume that in a foreign country, a country that lived through the fifties and sixties of the fundamental equality of wealth, seven generation of restless decade, the eighties eat crabs rich first, policy-nineties, after making the rich, the rich capital accumulation completed, a considerable part of which became a giant snowball general, enlisted to become a monopoly or ** A large number of officials and businessmen ambiguous person in charge of wealth. Divide up the existing wealth of basic, basic form of social class, social order and the basic rules of the game development today, you are in this country, you expect the good things you rich overnight?
Based on this logic, in the bottom of the pyramid we have these huge crowds attractive looks perfect opportunity, generally unreliable, and some of the events fall in your lap would not say one hundred percent, is at least ninety percent a trap. You have to think about it, in the present society, who obliged to unconditionally help you? Helpfulness, that is based on a moral level to do after a certain euphoria in will occur, the world is not simply
I say, not all want the opportunity to beat him to death, just to remind you that when faced with the opportunity to look beautiful, be sure to keep your eyes open, polished eye, reverse thinking (that is, standing to give you a chance to consider the TA on the terms of the purpose of doing so), the opportunity to consider the overall bias that may occur, the final decisive act boldly.
, for example, you can easily believe that the gaming industry in these countries, no manipulation? You can not trust your business partner suddenly call you that a number of cheap goods to sell you this no hidden reason behind it? You can not trust your subordinates honestly tell you that you should pay attention to rest too hard these words? You can easily believe that the wine on the table can boldly say that all of his money to lend you a friend? Soy sauce, you can easily believe that the next owner to sell suddenly one day said to the first prize of one million in cash prizes such sales promotions it?
the like, as long as you keep a cool head, personally verified, you will get hidden under these bubbles real chance!
PS: Many people do not know now is how these shift the country's wealth, I can tell you that the system for the general public is now more complete, the basic law to prevent the situation in the possibility of suddenly wealthy, but If you rely on your primitive accumulation to a million (figures are not accurate, but this means) this level, with the relationship between the accumulation of the various contacts, proper or improper practices, standardize, or walking a fine line of the road, you can easily make two million, if you find money to a bottleneck, that block your way of getting money, and basically there is no system of this argument, and can only be a people. One of profound meaning, you implicitly.
above comments, both for foreign and, if coincidence is purely accidental.
Do not try to establish good relations with everyone
This is one of the most stupid way, which is the incredible realm of the community who want to do this a lot! In fact a good relationship with everyone is impossible.
real contradictions in society, everywhere, in schools, institutions, organizations, groups and even families everywhere, but there is only a shallow depth.
good relations with everyone, you need to invest enormous time and energy to do this an impossible task, Moreover, a good relationship with everyone, it means that your relationships are with everyone in general. The advantage is that the unit model health assessment, Ambassadors and the like Tau Street, you will agree to you, and even a little bit of this first Street, the benefits will not turn to you because you are the best bully ah, you who did not dare offend ah.
In fact, if you in a group within one or two Because human evil dictates, if a person in the circle tougher, even though he was a bit unreasonable, but also can get more with cooperation. But this can not be too tough, if excessive, easy to bite.
how to find some balance between these extremes it? I suggest that we can do as follows.
1, hate you hate, like you like, this is the most common practice.
2, selected promising groups, stand on the stand, especially the two you stand among the people who can not afford to offend such a situation (a gamble).
3, cool with them, the two do not Xiangbang. (Some people think that the people are offended, it is not true, as both sides in the war of offending occurs only in the long run, regardless of the Fang Shengli you can get benefits, but the difficulty is also large.)
4, to do the fence, this result polarization, two are very comfortable down well, not quite good people at both ends, lifeless miserable. Without this repair for admission, be careful of.
I put a list of possible methods, this is not the radio, we can freely mix, as the case, there is no relationship between the eternal, only permanent interests.
attitude towards money
often see mainstream magazines and newspapers, on television how we treat education, money, nothing more than rows of seats, so that we improve this state up to the lofty. There is no such references in the community. Society will not go to discharge the money does not matter how how how how important, it uses many of the facts tell you: money is the world's second loyalty to your friends, the first loyalty is to your dog.
as long as you have breath in, your bank card will not throw you to find someone else. This is your money on your attitude.
you how to deal with money?
first step into the society began, you have to maintain the greed of money! This is your one of the strongest driving force. Hard to imagine a person of money will eventually become indifferent to the enormous wealth of control of them. Always hungry for money in the state can make you more agile mind, hands and feet quickly, spending more scientific, so that you get more of accumulation.
under any circumstances, do not lose the interest of money under any circumstances. Do not do unnecessary expense
only one: criminals face with a knife guns, if the body hard enough to make you money, give money to the nice things.
many passionate young people understand, are like you, contributing to the arrogance of the number of bad guys? This society has become what it?
I never see this problem up to this height, I just tell you this: If you are interested in your life, live long and comfortable, it is hard with such a person not worth it. The help does not contribute to his rage and ferocity, and you think, have a good way, how many people would like to go armed with knives robbed?
death only once, I hope we can last in bed, the most pro-Enron when people around the left side.
do an imperfect person
We all know that perfect person does not exist. I never advocate you to work hard to perfect, and I want to teach you is how best to do a lovable person is not perfect.
often in a number of companies, institutions, organizations and see, a very prominent individual ability, and everything was fine, but this is not a person you like, there are always many people secretly discredit him, there is always a lot of people that he secretly ill. If your boss also happens to be a soft ear, then the person in the company is difficult to mix the base.
Why does this happen? Inferiority of mankind dictates that a person good, we should let everyone catch up chasing dead, that this extreme good will win the respect and envy. One good, only slightly higher than we all so little, but why are higher than you, then this one will gain a little good a lot of jealousy and envy. In this case, without mentioning the innocent? Every man innocent, pregnant with the wall against himself.
In this case, many people realize this, so try to People First, to the masses, even eat the economic losses, we should not strive to isolate themselves. That is good, but the final analysis can not eliminate this potential opposition, but have to be confused with these people together, and can not be reconciled. How to do?
highlight some of their own disadvantages, the balance of all of their views. These small faults may be, themselves, then they do not self-defeating on the line. Give you an example, a friend just to another company, go due to their higher overall quality of all the people around part of it, his boss is serious though, intends to train him, but almost all of my colleagues crowding around him, in this species survive in the environment, is not too happy. He accidentally discovered the company leadership of the late and leave early these things are not too sensitive, so often a little late for work, business, or do the same, over time, we all know that this guy is the biggest drawback, and that he only that, some people close to him began , will open a number of democratic appraisal of the class meetings, the discussions at the meeting on his appraised, awards and the like, almost the same tone: the shortcomings of a number of comrades, such as the often late, but! He achieved remarkable success. . . . Decision as excellent, hope to correct shortcomings. . . . The magical effect of these small shortcomings really infinite ah, in fact, more and bigger mistakes he committed, but these small defects cover a big mistake, as he brings great benefits.
know the mystery, right? Re-emphasize, do not self-defeating, look like the boss, and then try to start small areas, such as old-fashioned clothing than others, such as not wearing a dress, such as personal hygiene is not very good, when you looked at someone else Hanhan laugh at you dress, your business skills, but he is also not delay, boss appreciation, the people bother to envy you, this is destined to smooth your way promotion. This is one of the key is: those who make fun of you, they forget that life skills and survival skills of difference! Your life as a cover up your weak job market strong survival skills, saying pig eat tiger called play.
pay may not be able to pay off
It was a truth, do not think about how much they pay much, we will be able to harvest the number of how many years it was into education.
in this society, you pay a lot of sweat and tears, but you sometimes have to face the dilemma of crop failure, disappointment and sadness that I am sure everyone will have experienced. But please do not cry, this time leaving only the mouth cheap tears of salt.
I think Go
game, noticed a detail, regardless of Shu Qi win at each time after the stone Buddha, is not the first time, depressed, sad, happy, but quietly Replay. I want to say what it means, to pay, before a return will not be able to understand and know the results, that is, recollection of the process, lessons learned, ready to start again. What do you think is not, in fact, you pay, you've got a lot.
in spirit to itself as a victory or defeat is standard issue in general, the action itself as a person at the front of the special forces cautious.
to be a superb strategic investors
personnel is a key in this key, I hope you feel carefully, definitely there will be a great harvest.
investors most in need of? Means to make money? No! The most important is that investors look! Even if you are an ignorant idiot to make money as long as you correctly put the money to make money in the hands of a will, your gains are huge!
Similarly, even if your life has been a Anfen keep, will not make big money, vain support of ordinary people hungry, and you also have the opportunity to be a skilled investor!
here,
la gear light, I do not mean financial investment, but a greater potential for strategic investment in personnel!
three neighbors have a king, a businessman, with the means to quickly become a Fangfu Hao, who knows Fall in love with gambling, gambled away the family property within a few years, everybody had to please the people around him, and now all despise him, the worst When you want to buy rice by three hundred. Wang San shame in the eyes looking at you through the loaned?
is wrong through and did not hesitate. In answering this question of what the king to calm the situation of the three current and future development. Wang San
there is no doubt now in the distressed period, but one trained in business skills and not lose out, if the right opportunity, he make a comeback is not a dream. The key now is that there is no gambling in his determination to go back!
not lend money you do not have to answer to the king by the three, but enthusiastically pulled him to the house full of dishes and drank the wine, a few glasses of sinks, king of the three shed tears, proud of you know already, and you also asked to be the king of three months does not go to ############s. This is not by a few hundred dollars to buy rice, but the tolls gather to the south, the king still a little three-way in the south, this time like that running.
you warming up a pass with him, and finally took a thousand dollars to him, clearly told him that this money is spent on travel expenses or lost gambling depends on him, and his friends were watching anyway, pull his hand.
the king three heard this, tears dare not temporary table near, Take a shot? He later developed already, once developed, you not get on the fast track of wealth?
a thousand dollars, called the personnel risk investment strategy. Three cases of the king, called an investment evaluation report. Three king drink pull pull into the emotional tone probe, which called for further analysis of site visits.
like this investment, you're always doing, I'm sure winning the lottery than you buy a much higher rate!
this example a bit large, I am afraid that some students thought a moment, but bend Shui, I cite some of the life of a small example.
such as your units, there are a restless guy, old Xiangtiao Cao, and he does some skill. While the boss you hate him, following the abusive boss has alienated colleagues forced him, to do the appropriate emotional investment, as you try, really very simple, since at this time because people can see that the most genuine friends. You approached him at this time is absolutely true friends. For a small emotional investment, ensure that you have friends almost a lifetime memory. After he quit if developed, will never forget you. Even if developed, more than one iron in addition to friends, but you do not have any loss.
so, good grades in the class of rural children, children from poor families, while others disdain, making fun of others, you pay more attention to him, he will definitely return to you beyond your imagination!
should I give more? No, I think we basically take the hint, and the missing, but combat.
should always remember: icing on the cake thing, who will be dry, timely, and this can be called unique!
carbon does not give away, to go through cool analysis, have a certain grasp will be rewarded, it can be sent. You see the community to donate money to poor children, who do not like to donate, Poor academic performance of poor children do not deserve help? Many of them, not sleep, but the road in terms of learning from books, but people just born to run. Shameful is that our education never face it, they will curse: do not study hard, deserve!
digress the topic. Gradually devoid of conscience today, maybe only people from out of suffering, the suffering will be the same people who have some kind of heart.
remind you one last, since the said venture capital is, of course, there is a risk, take the money and gamble on the three king, or may not pay attention after you developed, it is risk. But the benefits far outweigh the risks in the case, this investment can be described as the best of your life invested.
do and adapt their actions in tooth
a twenty-first-year-old young man, if you read my article, think they should be quickly deep cultivation to Ayutthaya, striking, Jianhua like a ghost realm, you're wrong.
young people, there should be vigorous, middle-aged people should be mature, the elderly, should calm situation. This is a basic law, if you breach it, the people around you as the clown will see, that's for sure, you know, without a wrinkle grandmother was a terrible thing.
fact, a two-year-old young man is very funny aging and installed one of the things as loaded B like peeling an onion, is hierarchical. Smart to play their roles well in advance the appropriate time into the next role is the most that you do.
For example, they are two girls, all kind of beautiful, in the company of a beautiful all day and everyone to use their good opinion of their own, walk in between colleagues, she did not mean to my smile and like a baby to give you their male colleagues, fatal, she also knew how to understand, not to exceed the limits. Another girl is disdain, but do their own thing, never talk and laugh with people easily. As the company's colleagues, which set you eat? Oh, most people would want that, want to marry his wife, of course,
la gear on sale, the second election, but only as a colleague, of course, willing to do something to help the first friends.
PS: before into a unit, if the unit is expected to stay in this relatively long period of time, that do not disguise himself, himself as a hard positive perfect. What my colleagues? That was the year three hundred sixty-five days, most of the time people spend their own, and then the person can pretend for so long at the down, who do not know who? Also true in business, long-term partner before, do not disguise, sincerity, wisdom in this is a return to basics. Should a low-key work
there so a Chinese saying: quick in action, Lane in the statement. Means to do more, work less talk table. This is in the real world, to deserve some scrutiny.
kidney face a word in the mountains when he said: do not take the cat to go straight, depends entirely on the mouse.
Similarly, in the present society, you do things low-key or high-profile work, depending on your BOSS. BOSS If you can not change you, you have to adapt to him, and not to indulge in complaining about how he did not know how people are not fair. If he is headed, you will when and if he is enlightened ruler, you will when Wei. So then a little bit shameless, but if you really have a clear and bright heart, then you as a traitor by the upper first and then do a clean BOSS bar, or you are on the host can not even to talk about any ambitions?
look at newspapers and magazines often write, people in the world, must have some really me, leave a little innocence, which is right, but please leave a little is enough, do not play Quanzhen, or will die very tragic . If you have enough ambition, so you have the ability to change it again, this is the most realistic reality.
front of the boss doing more to explain things well boss, the boss carefully to help solve the concerns. . . .
a joke: the unit is a hanging tree full of monkeys, looking up, full of ass, look down, all smiles, looking to the left and right, all eyes and ears.
Never underestimate the boss
In this regard, I have some painful lessons.
very young, just joined a company, made a few small mistakes of youth are. Many systems this company that is unreasonable, it is naive to put a lot of views and I think is a reasonable proposal, sent to the owner of the hands, did not think the boss noncommittal, it is the frustrated one.
time goes by, they see the boss is not pleasing to the eye, and felt that he had not much skill, every day, eating and drinking companion, and his vulgar bear, are not familiar with the basic details of the company, it does not really useful, really bad, could not help feeling underappreciated always have, if I want to sit in his seat, the company will definitely soar.
being blocked in the company I finally had to leave frustrated.
over so many years down the idea of looking back at really good Analysis are as follows:
a company if there is obvious defects or flaws, can you not see out of one, including the boss is not fool everyone, including, but it works like this certainly has some truth or the hidden meaning of. Nobody said that it can prove anything you say? That company is like the head of the boss because some lovers and some set unreasonable. These new and how I know!
one can mess with a certain position is absolutely superior to others, the ability of some people by means of virtue, if a man mingled a certain position of no merit, then he also has strong backing, and And it would be his attractions. You despise because you really do not know him. As the owner of that company at the pull-list friends and deployment of employees than the ghosts are really fine, of course, this is my understanding of the situation after many years.
new
good diligent you are a New employees, you naturally very hard working performance, but also a very competent performance, others thirty minutes of work, you have your five minutes to finish, but also to help others.
diligent is a good thing, but you know in your new employee who is a normal thing, others will not additional to praise you. I would like to remind you that, do not show too diligent, if you are too diligent, we will impose increased expectations for you, after you become a little slack, and that all relevant, the higher the value down, anti- Image of against you.
how to do it? Boss gave you an hour to do one thing, how long do you think the best finish the count? Thirty minutes one hour is wrong, the most correct was fifty minutes. As for the truth, I do not talk about this, right?
have a warm rear
a lot of people out wherever they went, heating and carry their own, the surface warm, very lonely inside, put his career as a spiritual, almost less to consider family factors.
I am not saying this wrong, but that your life really so unsuccessful.
no matter how powerful you are, you have black and blue, when this time, a warm light, love you anxiously wait for you. This spirit of comfort be your strongest stations, there is this rear will never hit that will not fall.
a good run this warm rear, it is even worth your time to work more than the treatment, those who often focus on men and women to the cause of strong people, they are far more fragile than their appearance.
objective, you need a place to make you burst into tears.
PS: This is not only about relations between men and women friends or couples, your parents and siblings also counted.
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