American parents educate kid apt look how heartle

I am often asked approximately the children's pedagogy, especially training of American children inquire me, it seems we are children of Chinese parents school their children on the publish, I feel quite disturbed, so I am not one expert, or want to see their own , listen, share friends with you Bo.
; (numerous years ago an interview with the parents of the young United States)
I trespass in this tall sounds, and I said that one of you will then listen. If you give us some inspiration, it is naturally better. If I have something wrong place, or you have different attitudes, and do not reproach me Ha!
talked about the education of children, reminds me of a old-fashioned screen:
We often see parents take their children out to play in the park, children play the rise, they inevitably fall. This time, Chinese parents, generally ran to 1 side propped up the child, meantime also pronouncing mouth: agreeable treasure, it impair? Do not wail do not cry, Mom to buy you good edible.
I see parents in the United States is not the case. They see children fall, there is little Qufu, even if the child crying and then aggravate, they are only one side to encourage: good boy, his fall, his mount up.
Although this likeness
outdated, but very classic, I consider American parents to educate their children can see the inconsistency between:
Chinese parents accustom to do it for the child, the child could not bear to persevere hardship; American parents, children are encouraged to face their own difficulties.
; (adopted Chinese children of U.S. families) ;

(a) they do not eat, it deserves to go hungry
a young man David Chinese students after graduation in the United States foreign wife marital to wed and have children, David's mother to New York from China to live with them for some time, as my grandmother , is the grandson of the normal love for me. Before long, the foreign wife and the mother of Chinese children between the different education began to have clash.
day at noon, the children in the meal Shuapi Qi, Yang wife said, do not eat even now the nightfall did not eat, 2 year old small mixed very stubborn, will not eat eat. Then in the nightfall, let the Chinese foreign wife like her mother made a few dishes with Chinese characteristics, of which there are very like the Half-Blood Sweet and Sour Pork. Foreign-law arranged the table is very beautiful, with every meal, the dinner began, said the small merged at noon, then forgot to ask how my mother is not his dishes?
foreign wife said:
a Chinese mom, was also not taken seriously, she believes, is to scare children at the most foreign-law, which would be actually cruel not to give the child to eat, so did not say everything to cry his son a wife to banquet. However, the Chinese eat half of her mother and base that even whereas children stood forlornly as a long time, but remains unmoved foreign wife or children did not ask the averaging of meals served. This time, China began to anguished mother. She fast took the tray, Sweet and Sour Pork installed to the children, side to her grandchildren.
foreign wife rushed immediately to stop: you do not mind him, he do not want to eat at noon, and said not to eat at night. Have promise to reserve. Hungry, but also his own. Hungry a few times, he will know.
Chinese mother listened, his brow wrinkled straight: This is not abuse your children? Do not give him food to eat.
foreign wife replied: not that we do not feed him eat his own, of course, along his own negate consequences.
son David also warned the Chinese mother: Mom, you do not control, and this children does not eat well is to let him suffer the eating.
Chinese mother and daughter do not want to
face strained, were dropped.
adults behind to the table to eat, children are still in the edge saw wretched adults eat, saliva have to flow out of his mouth, and began to insist the child, requiring her mother for him, ineffective, cry, cry out noisy, or useless, so finished a repast.
to sleep faster at night when the children are peckish abdomen is rumbling, that does not have to go hungry to eat, it taste really upset. So take the initiative with her mother to apologize, agree that he does not, should not be losing his temper,Womens Lacoste Arin Trainers, after some good food. Can immediately give him a glass of milk to nectar, because he is very hungry.
exotic wife poured a glass of milk to children, the children obediently to bed afterward drinking. Ever since namely daytime, the representation of the child to dine well every time.
In fact, from this we can see that American parents to educate their children the difference.
American children eat, which makes his face covered, regardless of the parents, and children from the United States starting in first grade, every day at noon for luncheon at educate, the children how to eat, parents foolish, and do not ask.
American family dinner table and put a few dishes, which children want to eat eat what. Almost all American children do not like to eat vegetables. While American parents know the nutritional value of vegetables, but naturally not to compel children to eat. American children eat, one that fed to can put down the sword and fork, or even away from the table. Americans eat it on the viewpoints and practices, reflects the education of American children a chief goal: the ability of neutral preoccupied amid children.

child to eat, you must determine for themselves what is like to eat, do not like to eat. If you obviously do not eat, not eat for fun, then in a while he starved, he was self-inflicted. Americans adore to say, making errors is an indispensable studying process. In this environment children grow up from childhood to understand their own competence to know what they want, not what, do not want to say do not want to eat eat eat eat a say, they have full positiveness in their own,Lacoste Strap Trainers, also understand Parents have full confidence in them.

(b) of the anti-shoes, and their alteration
is the fable of David at home
I once David guest at home, fair the kids to go out and play junior partner to see him at the entrance at the shoes, the dolls, when it was her grandmother were too present. Ready to go when the children put on shoes, China stopped smiling suddenly his grandmother: newborn, your shoes on backwards, Come, come, you wear what her grandmother.
China's foreign wife now dragged
She said: Let him go, let him be.
kids see entire right, favor a gust of air ran out to play.
Soon, the children ran back and said: Mom, Mom, my broken shoes, wear uncomfortable!
mother once said: a shoe is not comfortable? Jerry came into the chamber you amuse, look at his shoes and what shoes you are not the same.
child skeptical to put Jerry called in, and then a closer look to the shoes from Jerry. Finally, the child found his shoes and shoes Jerry not the same as the direction of curvature, curved inwards Jerry, he is bent ostensible Neither shoe. Children refers to the mom, my mother said about you Neither shoe A change of feet to see them?
servile to their own children take off their shoes immediately, and then bartered approximately wearing on, and absolutely for much extra comfortable, which he was beneath the understanding, that is their own shoes to wear backwards!
hobbled down to the Chinese and her mother watched the children out to play a junior partner has only asked the foreign-law: not that a pair of shoes to wear opposition it? In return you give him, he knew, so why charge so many enthusiasm.
foreign wife said: not the same. Dress has always been his own shoes, his own had to let him do things, even if done well, we will not area him. Wrong, he tasted the consequences, the afterward time he will surely change over. Such as the shoes on backwards, he saw little friends are not like wearing shoes, he naturally knew shoes were worn wrong. If you fall, he will kas long aswearing shoes that are not comfortable, easy to wrestling, wrestling will be hurt.
Sure ample, since then, the house of David Boy's shoes had not anti-wear. Every period he saw additional children's shoes on backwards, he ambition go apt correct something, acquaint others how they ought wear shoes. Cute dead.
foreign wife, then many human may not agree with, some folk will feel that the child is small, naive, and adults should try to help them go too distant, let them make mistakes in life on the road less and less setbacks, and less harm.
truth, I'd admit with the outlooks of foreign wife, the children make their own course to go, even now the mistakes, even wrestling, and let go of his own experience, to correct.
side Mamalielie I do not like the parents, blame the kids complain about useless, what should have to fret about, while dissimilar request for the children, virtually all agree, as, like a hen, always and everywhere defend the child, everything arranged. I like the way American parents of the child, do not give money, do not damn. What they need to work hard to create, non-interference, often let children have some small goals, one by one to fight, to be realized. Such as: buying toys, to travel, at home or work-study know next to nothing ofmething. Their own money at their disposal.

(c) their own social problems, deal with their own

Americans of our community neighbors, Mr. Mike, have a lovely son called Mark, Mark has a very fine bike, the community's children are very jealous of him, always wish that, through his pretty bike to ride a ride. But Mark takes excellent care of the automobile, not willing to lend the children to ride. Therefore, when Mark played with bikes, he is playing single, because he was afraid the kids pestering him by automobile.

Over time, the children were all in the community and he does not like a play, we do not, and he exchanged a toy.
After a while, Mark newness of the bike after,Lacoste Radiate Croc Trainers, he began to miss and the sensibility of the children with Feng Wan, he even willing to lend you a bike ride. However, the children seem to prop a grudge, we are no longer willing to play with him.
Mark had no choice but to go home with Mr. Mack wrote: kids do not play with me, father help me speak to the kids say it? I am compliant to loan you a bike ride, and I want to play Jeffery mini exercise, and wanted to hide and quest.
Mr. Mike
rejected immediately after listening to his request, saying: Mark, you have a little male, they have committed a wrong, to go to their commitment to themselves to solve the problem . You tin go and argue the children, one not to attempt several times, we will excuse you.
result, there is no way in the case of Mark, the only children were crestfallen to go to, to apologize to you, please adopt him again. Later, a team of little children and playing into the. You ride my bike, I play with your train.
compare, Chinese families are quite different. Outside the precluded children, or bullied by other children, Chinese parents premier reaction is: who would defiance to tease us baby, we ascertain him afterwards!
adults too much comprised in their children's social problems can accessible lead to poor children's social skills, do not know how to handle interpersonal problems. In fact, it reasons a child or parents do not know how to refine the ability to solve problems independently.
I can not say all good American education, are successful, but their philosophy of education, many children are very value learning and reference.
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(d) of American children also re kin
long time ago, heard my friends back home said, American families where the relationship among parents and children how to indifference, even with a family go out to eat, but also the system AA .
I see the annuals in the United States, which namely a deep misconceiving. Maybe I only see a chapter of American families, not comprehensive, not representative of the United States?
United States is the country of emigrants, many have very strong family values,Lacoste Finham SPM Trainers, such as Italy, Ireland, German Jews, they are for the family, only in the economic, a strong focus on fostering children's independence, so for everyone to establish a
American parents may not like Chinese parents a standing ovation their children's lives in every feasible way, they are more optimistic about the emphasis is to make child health, and healthy identity character, will They do not painstakingly designed children's hereafter, not to the future arrangements for the child, even if want to prepare, in a manner, are more consideration, but focus on the evolution of the child's liberty, and aspire to train children to become competent to accustom to the environment, with independent viability of the social being. Frankly speaking,Lacoste Trainers UK, the child's parents are not backing the United States, but their spiritual support.
In this educational philosophy
grown children, their parents is also very compassionate. Although the child, parents of the child was Council thanks the parents for their education and education.
many children grow up, parents get old, do not give them retirement money (in fact, the U.S. benefits, the child's parents do not need the money.) But this does not mean that, regardless of their parents they do not catch on their parents.
holiday, son and daughter also put their children to their parents a short linger, grandchildren, grandparents often call to ask how to do that road savory dishes. . .
there will not be with American children live with their parents because the parents do not want to live with her children, but parents need care, home nursing in the United States, the cost of warranty company to disburse,Lacoste Tourelle Trainers, but also to help look after the children
my friend Suzanne, very know how to care for her parents. Her father was ill, her father then came to live with, easy to concern. And my friend David, his father has gone wrong with the heart, depending on an synthetic heart to life, waiting for heart transplants that time, he systematized a vacation, special a standing ovation her father at home. In increase, John will give their mother a week, double, Jeff will issue their own photos to share with everybody in the family. . .
Special note: The story of David and on the Web to see a Chinese foreign daughter-mother to the United States to see the story of education is very similar to the wife of U.S. foreign some educational fancies, gave me great inspiration, I jot this blog for reference. At this book, did not find the incipient, can not interlock, can not admit, apologize.
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