Parent-child relations in a comprehensive skills

This book is in October 1998, a month's time I write out of respiration. Recall that the preponderating mood: Jinger (first wife) died of heart anguish also; just returned from the United States of NLP Diploma NLP University graduate level back passion; see the annual newspapers, magazines, television scope, full of tragic stories , if adults or the children comprised, the reasons behind all the parties in the process of growing children, not to establish a good mental health. At that time, I have amassed much experience in a number of professors NLP courses, but also privately preferred the cases of some psychological counseling. Students and by those who see the guide has improved, rejoicing, but also can not help but consider about the root occasions of their problems. A conclusion is the same: a child growing up, did not develop a good mental health.

and Jinger's family life, there are many pessimistic place. In the two and between the two with the kids,GHD NZ, there are a lot of problems, mostly my responsibility. After 20 years of marriage in 1992, I contacted the NLP, kas long asthe key to the solution, but a lot of things, however, it is yet too late. Reflect on my own source of the problem, the conclusion remains the same: in my children growing up, did not develop a good mental health.

I see: either NLP or do I teach how effective counseling are just a transient solution only. Babies born today, 30 years after I still find learning NLP or counseling for him,GHD IV Straighteners, unless the child was growing up, to send up a good mental health. Thought of this, the heart of a power flowed, the result is that the child's book.

maximum of the parents, is doing its mind and aspire for one goal: to make children grow up best. But, they constantly fail to look inward to hard go results, as they thought, speech and behavior, by the traditional culture, social status, he disputed the before generation, etc.,GHD Pink Limited Edition, can only reiterate past practices. Even if parents fulfil that there is a change required, it is tough to find books alternatively courses to enhance themselves.

there are still some parents do not even think I need to change. Appear unsuccessful for life, not happy, they are blaming outer factors: society, world, government, culture, fashion, work pressure, the World Wind (Kusakabe), the environment, other people, even establish a good mental health, that is, disability in character. Character of a person can not do without, because he needed a character to deal with every moment in life appears to do. But that is not to make the character maintain that he has improved to make their own changes. Children always start from a blank page. The main source of his study is his parents, if parents have not changed, children will only inherit the same thought and behavior patterns.

this book, there is no bookstore in the case of assignment, even selling the 6000, really surprised me. This is absolutely not for I write well (I have a tiny self-knowledge), but because this knowledge is absolutely a altitude precedence today's society; parents need to understand and simple to do some of the notions and techniques. My second book, (NLP - help become more successful and happy life of wisdom) successfully into a bookstore, this parent-child book can also be a outcome of the wider mart exposure. I decided to conduct a comprehensive modification of the content. Mr Wilson Cheng added illustrations to make the book glamor. I also thank Miss Chen Huiya Mr. Huang Guanchang re-layout and sale work.
A lot of people's life, are much the impact of childhood. Every day children are worth our attention, let us love with the right to treat our children.


NLP based parenting beliefs

1, the child is born,GHD Blue Butterfly 2011, they adore, trust and comply their parents.
2, then the bad behavior of children is not for parents.
3, parents give their children love naught another can substitute.
4, children continue to learn, even when he was confused when they are the worst.
5, each child has made him a successful and happy life with all the necessary capabilities, the parents just to have this ability to help him release.
6, the child's intelligence and ability are regular, although he did not care about what parents care about.
7, anyone act is not equivalent to the plenary people.
8,GHD Midnight Gift Set 2011, there is always a better access, merely to ascertain namely the parents compliant to give.
9, parents of every child to grow the biggest determinant of results.
10, all of the promotion of parent-child relationship, we must first come from parents, some of the changes.

Parents amuse remember:
lust to be differ children, parents must be in their thoughts, lecture, behavior and affective expression is alter.
they are not arranged to change, but want to change the child's parents are not successful.



correct viewpoint of parents
for personality in the face of a child, parents should use the correct attitude to see at their identity:
(1) Parents not Superman, not faultless people, parents just ordinary people. Therefore, parents need to recognize their own:
· will win, will fail.
· the mood is good, but also in a bad mood.
· than some smart than some people stupid.
· aptitude in a digit of asset, in some other languid things.
· can not have anything you want.
· can never be wrong.

(2) parents and children have the same needs. Because both parents and children, so:
· parents want to be respected by others; children as well.
· parents want to be remedied fairly; children as well.
· parents want others to their variety, friendly; children as well.
· parents absence to do well while someone appreciates; kid for well.
· parents want to do well, it was the understanding and encouragement; children as well.
· When pain, worry, reduced, when parents want to assist friends and solace; children as well.

(3) parents of the child's parents is always, always give the child love and support. So:
· children succeed, parents share the delight.
· kids happy, parents feel happy.
· children persist to learn and progress, parents proceed to be encouraged and appreciated.
· down elect back up each child, parents have to support it.

(4) parents with speech and behavior to achieve the above reason, so said and done the same:
· in front of children, parents need not all right, successful, merry.
· parents are not fearful of the children admit its errors.
· the face of the child, parents do not conceal the inner emotions.
· parents do not must worry that their child will thus chance vulnerable.
parents in a normal, easy way to show that he / she is such, is sufficient to go through their life cruise, the children will certainly honest, confident and positive attitude to establish their lives .



ten elementary tips as parent-child relationship

(a) no two people are the same.
◎ No 2 human are indeed consistent view of the same thing, so children of different views and you, nothing strange.
◎ children must have some place better than you, and your mighty points, not all children have.
◎ everyone's faiths, values ​​and rules are different. So you can not inquire your child has a completely different role.
◎ respect other people's differences, people will respect their unique area. You can adopt the child's different, he will accept your opinion of him.
◎ person in a matter can not be assumed in the other person will have the same results. So your experience is a reference to the child, but does not necessarily guarantee that the law is right or possible.

(b) a person can not control another person
◎ one can not change distinct human. Change themselves, their children will presumable make the suitable changes.
◎ a person can not Therefore, there is no to accept another set. children have their own set. understand his set, from his point of view, it is most threaten to accept your opinion.

(c) The definition of communication depends on the other side's response
◎ what is not said to myself, what is essential to hear each other. always accented that he did not say how the correct use, the child receives a message averaged for him what was major.
◎ heard by the child to understand, to accept the language of talking to him will have the greatest effect.
◎ words have no effect controlled along the speaker, the listener resolve. the child's repercussion differentiate you to say no effect, you can change the words of the txt and manner to control effects.
◎ way to change that, have a chance to change the listening results. no effect controversy, the more that child will be more do not accept the results worse.

(d) the child is to follow the parent's behavior and emotions, and not the parents instructions
◎ parents in dealing with the behavior of one thing, the children saw, the next times will follow suit.
◎ children discern their parents when faced with a location reacts, it will speculation that it is correct. and the same thing in their face will make the same response.
◎ speech or prose their own child's body and mind can not generate a learning effect in behavioral or emotional answers. so little effect teaching style punishment.
◎ parent's instructions, if children do not comprehend the language prototype with the issue, will so that the child is difficult to follow. must 1st consider the child would not comprehend, it fixes the opening.

(e) All acts must have its positive motivation
◎ everybody apt meet their interior Some absence to do entities. entire doings of the baby has its affirmative significance, yet he does not know tin not mention.
◎ parents need to detach the child's behavior and motivation. the nature of children's behavior is wrong or invalid We should be denied, but the children always try to attempt to upgrade their knowledge and ability, we must be sure that his motivation for this.
◎ discovered that the child's positive motivation back the act, to be sure, in guiding children to find another more effective approach, this is the easiest way to accept your child.
◎ sensation and motivation are not bad, but the alternative of approximate failed to attain the desired results. emotional strength or the instruction of the child, the child would like to preserve motivation improve the heart, to help children to nail efficacious train is the responsibility of the parents.

(f) a better way, everyone will follow
◎ refused to change because never find a better methods. children must understand that their method is more effective, he would accept, and thus change.
◎ allow a person to another way to make him understand more, and price fewer, that people naturally using that method. children are like everyone, continue to work on this point.
◎ better approach is to help, that is, more choices to each additional; specify a method must be secondhand, but it is an try to treatment of each other. all are greet to help resist manipulation. your children are also welcome your help, but will resist your control.

(g) There should always be at least 3 solutions even now
◎ not successful, equitable that the methods used at present has not been the anticipated results. of the child must cling to the results, preferably than insisting above methods.
◎ only deem there is an effective method known, will have the opportunity to find it and make things change.
◎ on one thing we know way pile up, we do take up the greater; for children, also, the more you prefer, your child achieve the results you want, the more likely Great.

(h) the growth process namely a studying process
◎ children to try different approaches, is to go to find the best one.
◎ happens in children from learning, so he knows how to handle with hereafter experience the same thing.
◎ children to keep trying fashionable methods in array to know which one is best.
◎ strange about the child's life, it is to learn how to grasp more.

(IX) should help children to grow up and not substitute children grow
◎ any attempt to replace children grow up, will finally be made in the negate effects of the child's body. Children can not learn, dependence and lack of positiveness will be.
◎ parents on benefit of the children to do the things kids do not obtain the respect of the child. dependent children love their parents would complain and find fault.
◎ encourage and navigate the children to do their own thing , is the most effective way to help children grow. so that the child can have the ability to grow and can catch on themselves.
◎ child's spontaneous, positive attitude, self-discipline, are narrated with this point because they need from the to do their own thing source. so the child must have no mistrust that this love.
◎ The language of love, if the parents have shown with the conditions, then the child will have the tall degree of parent-child relationship in doubt. because of this love , parent-child relationship is the root and pillar.
◎ If this love to do something because the child lost the case, the child will become build up do not concern almost it, that is, do not care about the parent-child relationship. Therefore, do not regard what conditions it out to do.
◎ parents if their children out conditions to this love as a bargaining piece, the children will be the future of the parents love the most chips. today's society, numerous parent-child relationship completely broken, it is for this reason. order cardinal concepts of a part, the parents as the correct attitude for the second, ten basic tips for parent-child relationship three, 4 ideal home context, on the growth and the need to teach a child head development Second, the 5 stages of mental development children three, four elderly 0 to 6, 6 to 12 annuals antique five six-over 12, how to help children build self-worth seven children 10 to 12-year-old fourth part deals with changes in emotional skills the child of a preface, exchange type II, Type III punishment, chilly type 4, five didactic type, EQ type VI, EQ type Seven deal with child emotional skills, parent-child Case Discussion Chapter emotional education of a kin of basic tips in EQ II, what is emotional intelligence (EQ) Third, how to help children amplify enough EQ four, and five preference things destroy, and others to determine among Six conflict, responsibility VII, to help children build self-confidence, self-love and self-esteem Chapter VI good and effective presentation of a parent-child relationship skills, the correct appreciation of the child's method two, attach with the children's activities (maximal time) Third, to improve communication between parents and four children should not listen to the kids and how to do 6 repeated orders not to help the children to listen to the words of parents, seven, 8 rules for how to keep children,GHD Rare Straighteners, exercising parents to pay attention to the good behavior of 9 children, pay attention to the activities of ten children like , parent-child relationship first help outfit - Why do not you like to learn three, children's learning - the left brain and right brain Fourth, the child's educate - five competitive mentality, three inside the six-sensory ability to learn how to improve the learning ability of children seven or eight children go to school , nine sufferers of the education system, the different beliefs of ten children's education, to meet the challenges of Chapter VIII of the Elimination of the psychological oppression of parents in the home of prevalent belief and shared values ​​second, breaking the vicious circle of three, four to take the guide in a bad mood, relieve traction five six other effective methods of decompression, the decompression method is invalid on the marital problems of Chapter IX of the parents of the proposed presentation of a marriage the parents of two have by far broken, parents have separated or divorced three, four unattached parents in death of the spouse, children and daughter's letter to the Appendix