While reading this,
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I never met you face to face. I’ve heard a lot of stories about you, none of them good. I heard you were tall, and that you were no good. I remember the day you left; you were so tall you looked like a giant. But I guess to every two year old,
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As I grew older I started to wonder what you looked like or sounded like. I even had the perfect plan for when we met. I was going to stand right next to you in a train station and just look at you. Look at your eyes,
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Later on when I was in High School,
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Where did all the time go? You were busy with your life, I was busy with mine. Whose fault is it that everything happened the way it did? I guess we can sit and point fingers all day long, but who is that helping? No one!
I had extended an offer for me to fly out and meet you. I had asked that you think about it and then let me know so that I can make the arrangements. Three weeks later, no phone call. I am leaving tomorrow to go on a vacation with my husband. I made other plans when I didn’t hear from you. Maybe like in school, you are dead. I guess you have issues that you haven’t dealt with. We’ll try again in another ten years.
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For the child/adult who hasn’t met their parent. Here’s your hug,
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I leave for my vacation soon, and I will enjoy it. It is not the trip I planned on taking, but it will give me time to lick my wounds and give me the time and space I need to really appreciate all that I have in my life. I am so very blessed,
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To All of the Fathers of the World Who Left, and T
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