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In a past submit, I wrote about developing manly abilities which might be options towards the psuedo-manliness ideals of binge consuming, violence,microsoft office Professional Plus 2010 serial key, philandering, and cluelessness so prevalent within our culture, saying that currently being in services to other folks is surely an necessary piece of being a true guy. The report was nicely obtained, but I just obtained a comment on it from gggirlgeek that developed me consider:
“Is it unmanly to ask for or accept the help of some others? Wouldn’t allowing your pride to get in the way of getting your needs met and staying safe be unmanly?”
The old stereotype of the man (a strong gentleman, a manly gentleman, whatever…) is typically one of extreme self-reliance, sucking it up and suffering in silence instead of asking for or accepting help, especially from a woman.
But the new breed of gentleman doesn’t have to play by those rules.
In fact, I presume we need to ditch that entire manliness rulebook and write our own, one that includes acknowledging our limits and weaknesses and lets us accept a hand from those with strengths that we don’t have. In my eyes, many of us men are guilty of using excessive pride to hide our needs, and that by suppressing what is genuine and real for us, we’re staying less manly, not more so.
So I’d like to nominate accepting help from many people as another manly skill necessary for the new man.
Why is it fundamental for us to be able to accept help from friends and family?
Because it means that we can accept ourselves as who we are right now, not who we’d like to be or who anyone else wants us to be. Because it means acknowledging our limitations and our weaknesses. Because we aren’t an island unto ourselves.
We are connected by blood, by marriage, or by choice, to our community, and our community is best served by men who know their limitations and know how and where to look for help. It isn’t served by those who are only concerned by saving face – unless your idea of leading involves wandering around acting as if you know where you’re going because you’re too proud to ask for directions.
Let’s look at it this way: When the transmission in your car goes out,office pro 2010 32bit, you probably don’t tear it down and fix it in your driveway. You probably go to your mechanic and ask them to repair it. You do so because they have the abilities and tools necessary to do so in a very reasonable amount of time, whereas for us to learn how, to obtain the tools, and to make the time to repair it wouldn’t be practical. We have people with the strengths we don’t have help us out.
So why don’t we take advantage of the experience and knowledge available right in our own social communities? Surely our father or mother or uncle or best friend can offer us the benefit of the wisdom they’ve gained in life?
For one thing, it seems as if when we pay for someone’s help, we’re OK with that, but not if it’s freely given. For another, we might have spent a good portion of our lives building up an image of ourself as currently being competent,microsoft office 2010 Home And Business, and admitting we’re not capable of something (or not capable of doing something by ourselves) would run counter to that. And when we’re dealing with our wife, our girlfriend,microsoft office Home And Student 2010, or our peers, we’re afraid that we might not appear to them as we’d like.
But the truth is, we never appear to them as we would like to – our internal image of ourself is always at odds with our public persona (even the one we project to our intimate relations). We just need to get over that.
The other reason, the big elephant in the corner, is the idea that someone else – not your own mind – knows better than you do how to help you. As an example, how often does a person who drinks too much actually listen to their loved ones when they try to step in and help them? How about the second time that happens? The third?
Our pride (and addiction, which might just be wrapped up somehow in that pride) keeps us from letting them help us. And so we continue the behavior that is harmful to us, because we can’t admit that someone else knows better than we do.
In reaching for manhood, we ought to strive to be honest with ourselves, and then to also be as honest with many people as we are with ourselves. I’m not stating we ought to spill our guts to every person we meet, but merely that we as men owe it to ourselves to distinguish between false pride – which holds us back and keeps us hidden from other people – and accurate pride: having a sense of self-respect and personal worth, one which is not dependent on some others.
Some expertise might not seem so apparently manly,office 2007 Enterprise keygen, and this is one of them – staying honest means staying vulnerable, and vulnerability doesn’t seem manly at first thought. It also seems that the more subtle the manly skill, the more difficult it is to learn, and knowing when to accept help from many others is indeed a subtle art.
Be manly. Learn to know when you do need help, and accept a helping hand, a sympathetic ear, or some tough love when you do.
What do you suppose?
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