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seven top-level psychological allegory (looked good enough for a lifetime)
seven good enough for a lifetime of psychological fable
(a) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a
an apple tree, and finally the result.
the first year, which end up with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, they receive one. In response, angry apple trees, then cutting off, in turn, refused to grow. The second
years, it bears a five apples, four were taken away, they receive one. \
trees psychological balance.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, it bears the 100 fruit, 90 were taken away, they receive 10.
is possible, it is taken away 99, they receive one. But no matter, it can continue to grow fruit the third year-end 1000 ... ...
fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important thing is the tree to grow! Grow into giant trees such as apple, when those who impede it
force growth will be weak enough to be ignored. Really, do not worry so much about the fruit,
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you are not a has been broken since the meridians of the migrant workers?
started work, you talented, high-spirited, I believe that \But the reality soon hit a few of your Sap, perhaps, you
make a big contribution for the unit that no one seriously; perhaps, but not only by verbal emphasis on affordable; maybe ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree, bear
only enjoy the fruit of a small part of their own, and falls far short of your expectations.
So, you are angry, upset you, do you grumble ... ... In the end, you decide not to work so hard, to do to match their own income. Years had
to go after, you have a soul-searching and found that you now have not just work a passion and talent.
\But the essence is that you have stopped growing.
such stories abound around us.
why make such mistakes, because we forget that life is a journey, a whole, we think we have grown over, now to the Results
time for fruit. We too care about temporary gains and losses, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of self-off passages. We stand ready to give up doing so,
skechers shoes, continue to move toward growth path.
Remember: If you are a working group, met do not understand management, management or error management brutal boss or corporate culture, then, to remind ourselves about,
do not because of anger and full of resentment and self-off passages. No matter what, have to do an apple tree will never grow, because growth is always better than you
important how much money each month.
(b) the motives of the parable: the child in whom play
group of children frolicking in front of an elderly,
mbt sneaker, sounds a great deal. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: \
thanks. \
children happy, the next day is still coming, as always, playfulness. Come out to the elderly and gave each child 15 cents. He explained that he did not receive
income, only a small to some. It also can be 15 cents, children are still happily away.
the third day, the old man gave only 5 cents for each child.
children with rage, \
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apple fable fable is deeper answer: Why do apple trees from the off, in turn, because it is not for myself \
two types of human motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. If the internal motivation to act in accordance with, we are masters of their own. If we are driven outside the
Department of motivation, we will be swayed by external factors become enslaved by it.
In this fable, the calculation is simple for the elderly, who will the children's internal motivation \
play \
points, a lot like your salary, bonuses and other kinds of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference coordinate, our emotions can easily fluctuate. Because we can not control external factors, it is easy to deviate from our
internal expectations, let us dissatisfied, let us grumble. Gripe and let negative emotions such as pain, in order to reduce the pain, we had to reduce the
Department of expectations, the most common method is to reduce the work effort.
A person can form an external evaluation system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too prefer to use verbal rewards and punishments, material rewards and punishment control
system of the child, not to ignore the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their original motives, what are the external evaluation of care. School
, he forgot the original motivation to learn the joy of curiosity and learning; work, he forgot the original motivation for the work of the joy of growth,
boss and income fluctuations in the evaluation of his work has become the largest source of pleasure and pain.
remember: external evaluation of the system often is a hereditary, but you can break it, from now on cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to learn
and work into a \
(c) Planning fable: a piece of paper folded 51 times
Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your task is to fold it 51 times. So, How high?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, a big change, the thickness more than the distance between Earth and the Sun.
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to now, I get asked a dozen people in this fable, only two people said that this may be an unimaginable height, while the other
people think that is a maximum height of skyscrapers as high.
folded height of 51 such terror, but if only the 51 white paper stacked together?
This contrast made many people feel shocked. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 White simple stacked. Today doing this
, tomorrow little bit of that, every time there is no link between efforts. In this way, even if each work is done very well, their whole life for you to
to say it but a simple superposition.
, of course, life is more complicated than this fable. Some people,
mbt lami shoes, life finds a simple direction to do so firmly, finally reached their life
someone unattainable height. For example, I have a friend for your life is English, he spent more than a decade efforts, the amount of memory of the word only reached hundreds of thousands of
more, at this point to reach the average person can not match the height.
some people, and their direction in life is also very clear, for example, to start a company boss, so they need a lot of skills to professional skills, management skills
energy, communication skills, decision-making skills and so on. They may try doing this in the beginning, and try doing that, none is particularly proficient, but the most
after opening the company boss in the direction of these seemingly scattered the previous integration efforts together, and this is a complex folding of life, rather than simply
superimposed.
Remember: the power of sight more useful than the invisible forces.
Now, the popular place to find the answer from the unseen, such as the potential development, such as Success, that we rely on some miracle of life can be saved. But
is, in my opinion, Counseling Center, Dongguan Heng Yuan consultant Mao Zhengjiang more correctly, \
more important. \
(d) to avoid the fables: cat escape the shadow of the tricks
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However, wherever you go, Tom and Toby found that, as long as the sun appeared, they will see that they are crazy for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solutions. Tom is always close their eyes. Toby's approach is always to be
in the shadow of other things.
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psychological description of this fable, a small mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are derived from the distortion of the facts. What facts? We mainly those suffering negative events.
because of the pain experience, we do not want to face the negative events. However, once occurred, negative events that is destined to be with us for life
, we can do up to suppress them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a role. And, even if we have forgotten the fact that powerful again, these facts are associated with pain
still bitter attack us,
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development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either, as we like the cat Tom and completely distorting their own experience, all the weight of life
of negative facts to turn a blind eye; or, we, like kittens, like Toby, simply join their suffering to all of their things were very bad, since a
cut all bad, that make their most original sad incident is not so painful.
clouds mental hospital consultant, said Li Ling, 99% of drug users had a painful experience. The reason they did drugs to make themselves to escape the pain.
It's like hide in the shadows
, painful truth is a devil, the devil in order to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil.
There are many alcoholism
adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, father survive a lot of torture. To forget the pain, they learn
the same way.
In addition to these visible
wrong way, we humans have invented a myriad of all kinds of ways to escape suffering, Freud called these methods
psychological defense mechanism. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is necessary, but worse, if the distortion of the facts of psychological defense mechanism is so intense, it will
with more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety disorder, multiple personality, or even the spirit of **** psychosis.
really only one way to reach the health of your grief. Facing the pain would get a lot from the pain of unexpected gains, they will eventually
into the life of the party of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, as are the wealth of life.
one of the most important psychological law is, no matter how painful, you are no escape. You can only go brave face it and resolve it, beyond it,
final and it reached a settlement. If you own a temporary shortage of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives for help, or seek professional help, so you trust
people go with you face these painful things.
Rogers, American psychologist, was the most lonely person, but when he resolved to face this fact and after he became a true master of interpersonal relationships; American Psychological
Frank has a home oppressive
and alcoholic stepfather and a bad mother, but when he challenges the fact and, ultimately, from the heart to forgive his parents, he became a therapy
expert in this area; Japanese psychologist Morita horse was being serious neurological disorder, but he challenges the fact and finally through the invention of Morita therapy
... ... they are the most painful fact of life eventually became their most important asset. You can do the same.
(e) action fable crabs,
mbt walking shoes, owls and bats
crabs, owls and bats to cram on the habit. Few years later, they graduate and obtain a doctorate. However, the crab is still rampant, the owl
activities during the day and still sleep at night
, bats are still hung upside down.
��Comments�� This is a psychological master Huang Yongyu a fable, it's meaning is simple: action more important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
called profound knowledge of psychology. However, the more even the best knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know
some of those who had studied psychology for many years, one purpose of their psychology is to rule themselves, but after so many years of school, their problems remain.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is, they do not personally, just far away as the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into
their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, has been more than psychology, believes that is not sensitive, not suitable for Psychology. But the fact is that speculation is not working
correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge immediately in their own lives to do it. As a result, those away
knowledge becomes much real life experience, he does not \
If we say that the quality of high sensitivity is a genius, then the power is more important Gao genius quality.
this fable can come out of another meaning: Do not expect too much the magic of the mysterious psychological treatment. The most important force in your body forever, Austria
secret knowledge, the potential development of mysterious, dazzling success and so forth, are far inferior to the power of your own body has been important. We used to go outside to find the answer,
to someone else looking for strength, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically save you. If some Lianzhu punch line hits you, if some text or a new creed inspired you, then this
text and some other people's experiences are just a start, more importantly, a good knowledge you think you really use in your own life to go.
Jewish philosopher Martin? Buber's words, I have always considered the most important:
you'll have to start. If you do not love to go deep in a positive life, if you do not own way to reveal the meaning of life for themselves, then
for you, life will remain meaningless.
(VI) to give the Fables: bees and flowers
withered roses, the bees are still hard suck, because it takes before sucking off from this little sweet. But now in this little to spend, the bees suck the poison
juice.
bees know this, because the venom bitter taste is the big difference with the previous. Thus, bees anger, however, breathe on it to the whole world looked up
sector complain about, why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating wings, flying a bit high. At this time, it found, withered roses around everywhere with flowers
.
��Comments�� This is a psychological allegory about love, is a young language teacher of the true sentiment.
some time, she was falling out of love, painful, and always wanted to talk about me, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but
almost two months later, the total time they can not happen to get together.
the last time about her, she said: \
She had just returned from Jiuzhaigou back. The pain of lost love is still plagued her, let her trance, unable to enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she
noticed a little on the honey bee is a flower. That moment, her mind like thunder and lightning appeared in one sentence: \
can only suck the venom. \
course, the nature of small bees will not do, only man was foolish, and she of course the bees in this sentence refers to herself. That moment, she epiphany
out to give up the truth. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact, the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
give up is not easy to give up love, especially painful. Because, love is when our young copy of parent-child relationship. Young children, no
on from which side, parents can not do without. If a complete denial of his father and mother, and that means death for him, this is the ultimate fear of injury and
. We have experienced more or less been denied parents the pain and fear, so when love is a copy of the parent-child relationship once again let us
experience the pain and fear, our mood is very easy to become very bad.
However, compared to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, nothing we can do, all parents have the final say; But now, we
grow up, we have the power to choose their own destiny. It can be said, a child, we do not have wings bee, but now we have a pair of strong
powerful wings.
However, when deeply in love, we will return to childhood, we will forget a pair of wings to fly. When we realize that their own
, the love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, our love was free, there is a give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, independent and human dignity thing. You can work, but not that you worked hard on a
there will be results, because another person, you are not around.
So, no matter how much you care about the time love, if another person determined to leave you, please respect his choice.
And also remember, you are no longer a child, are left with the pain of torture. You have grown up, you have a pair of powerful wings, you can fly one
a relationship has become poison.
(g) close to the fable: the unique Rose
Little Prince has a small planet, the planet suddenly blooming flower blooming roses. Previously, only some unknown planet flowers, Amy
child never seen such beautiful flowers, he fell in love with this rose, carefully nurtured her.
those days, he thought, this is a unique flower on earth, only his only planet, other places do not exist.
, however, so he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have one
flower ordinary flower.
the beginning, this discovery, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, although there are many roses in the world, but his planet tis
, is still unique because that rose, he watered before, had spent her hood cover, sheltered behind the screen too, in addition to her body caterpillars, but also to listen to her
grumbled, or boasted, listening to silence her ... ... a word, and he tamed her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.
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this.
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: \
only devoted love, intimacy can be meaningful. But now we increasingly popular emptiness of the \
abuse of the one-night stand.
We are anxious to have
. Seems that each has had a rose, the value of their own lives to Duoliaoyifen. Internet age, with several ten lovers,
is no longer a rare thing too.
but I know who these promiscuous, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
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they will do anything to narrow the distance between. But once owned, they will quickly lose interest in this intimate relationship. The stronger the desire to conquer the loss
faster rate. \
For such people, a rose garden roses than a unique and more attractive.
However, the relationship between the United States, almost two inputs is the extent and degree to be tamed. When two people are naturally going into, naturally, be tamed,
relations will become life nourishment, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
But no matter how close. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still a rose, they are still two individuals. Rose not to travel if the little prince, or
little prince will travel non-roses with me, they have to stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: both a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than a thousand general. This relationship will bring us in from the incurable loneliness
rescue is the most important in our lives a kind of salvation.
If you have not experienced, you can not know the beauty of this relationship.