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(a) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a

an apple tree, and finally the result.
the premier year, which all over with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, they receive one. In answer, furious apple trees, then mowing off, in rotate, refused to grow. The next year, it bears a five apples, 4 were taken away, they receive one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, it bears the 100 fruit,Mens Air Max 90 Black/Gray/Red Logo Nike Shoes,Mens Air Max 2009 Blue/Grey/Black/White Nike Shoes, 90 were taken away, they receive 10.
is likely, it is taken away 99, they receive one. But no matter, it can continue to grow fruit the third year-end 1000 ... ...
fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important thing is the tree to grow! Such as apple trees grow into towering trees, those who have hindered its growth will be feeble to negligible power. Really, do not worry so much about the fruit, the growth is the most important. Psychological Review】 【

you are not a meridian of the work has since broken kin?
started work, you talented, high-spirited, I deem that But the reality presently buffet a few of your Sap, maybe, you made a excellent contribution for the element that no one seriously; maybe, but not only at verbal accent on affordable; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their own to enjoy only a small portion, and falls far short of your expectations.
So, you are angry, upset you, do you grumble ... ... In the end, you judge not to work so hard, to do to mate their own income. After the elapse few years, as you reflect on that now you have not just the work of passion and aptitude of the time.
But the elite is that you have stopped growing.
such stories abound around us.
why make such mistakes, because we forget that life is a journey, a entire, we calculate we have grown over, now is the time of the fruit. We too care about temporary gains and losses, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of self-off passages. We stand ready to give up doing so, continue to shake toward growth path.
Remember: If you are a working group, met do not comprehend management, management or error management wild boss or corporate civilization, then, to prompt ourselves about, do not disgruntled because of the inflame and the self-off passages. No matter what, must do an apple tree will not grow because you always grow important than how many money each month.

(b) the motivation of the parable: the child in whom a group of children playing

frolic in front of an elderly, sounds a great handle. Over the past few days,Womens Air Max 95 Black/Red Nike Shoes Reprinted I do no understand who namely, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: merry, the next day is still coming, as always, playfulness. Come out to the elderly and gave each child 15 cents. He unraveled that he had no income, only a small to some. It also can be 15 cents, children are still happily away.
the third day, the antique male gave only 5 cents for each child.
children with exasperation, Psychological Review】 【

whom you .
two types of human motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. If the internal motivation to deed in agreement with, we are masters of their own. If we are pedaled by external motivation, we will be swayed by external factors to become enslaved by it.
In this fable, the measurement is simple for the elderly, who will the children's internal motivation factors, so it operated the children's behavior. Fables of the elderly, a lot like your boss, boss? And pence, like not like your wages, bonuses and other kinds of external rewards?
such as the outer evaluation for a reference coordinate, our feelings tin accessible fluctuate. Because we can no control outer elements, it namely effortless to deflect from our interior expectations, let us dissatisfied, let us grumble. Gripe and let negate feelings such for anguish, in order to dwindle the pain, we had to reduce the internal expectations, the maximum mutual means namely to reduce the go exertion.
A person can fashion an external evaluation system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too rather to use verbal awards and disciplines, material stimuli and other control children, not to bypass the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their original motives, what are the external evaluation of care. School, he has forgotten the original motivation for learning --- curiosity and joy of learning; work, he forgot the original motivation of the work --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and earnings fluctuations into his work the largest source of pleasure and pain.
remember: external evaluation of the system often is a hereditary, but you can break it, after hours cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to learn and work into a

(c) Planning fable: a chip of periodical folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your task is to fold it 51 times. So, How high?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so tall? No, a big change, the thickness more than the distance between Earth and the Sun. Psychological Review】 【


to now, I get asked a dozen people in this fable, only two people said that this may be an unimaginable elevation, when others think of the height of the maximum That is a tall skyscraper.
folded height of 51 such horror, but if only the 51 white paper stacked together?
This contrast made many people feel shocked. Because there is no direction, lack of maneuvering in life, like the 51 White simple stacked. Doing this today, morrow little bit of that, every time there is no link between efforts. In this way, even if each work is done very well, they have your whole life is nothing but a simple superposition.
, of course, life is more intricate than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they reached the other end of life unattainable height. For example, I have a friend for your life is English, he spent more than a ten-year efforts, only the memories of the word reached the quantity of ten million and more,Mens Air Max 89 White/Black/Yellow/Green Nike Shoes 58 asset girls absence boys, at this point to reach the average person can not match the height.
some people, and their instruction in life is likewise very remove, for instance, to begin a company boss, so they need a lot of skills --- skills, management capabilities, communication skills, decision-making skills and so above. They may attempt doing this in the beginning, and try doing that,Mens Air Structure Triax 91 Black/Gold/White Nike Shoes, none is especially adept, merely in the end, open the company boss in the instruction of these seemingly dispersed the previous integration efforts together, which is a kinds of complicated folding in life, rather than simply cumulative.
Remember: the power of sight more useful than the invisible forces.
Now, the popular place to find the answer from the unseen, such as the potential development, such as Success, that we depend on some miracle of life can be saved. However, in my opinion, Counseling Center, Dongguan Heng Yuan consultant Mao Zhengjiang more correctly, avoid the fables: cat escape the shadow of the cheats

, Tom and Toby found, at a time the sun arose, they will look that they are outrageous for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby eventually have found their own solutions. Tom is always close their eyes. Approach is to Toby, always stay in the shadows of other asset.

【Comments】
cerebral note of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are derived from the distortion of the facts. What facts? We primarily those suffering negative events.
because of the pain experience, we do not absence to face the negative accidents. However, once happened, so doomed to negative accidents with our lives, we can do up to suppress them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still proceed to melodrama a role. And, even now we have forgotten the truth that powerful again, the pain associated with these facts would still onset us, let us somehow sorrowful, and can not be quelled. This pain Let us further effort to flee.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either, as we like the cat Tom and entirely misrepresenting their experience of life in entire the important facts are ignored negative; alternatively, we, favor cat attention than as,Mens Air Max Skyline Running White/Black/Grey/Red Nike Shoes, simply combine their undergoing, his own everything were very bad, since everything is so bad, that make their most sad event is not so incipient pain.
smokes mental hospital adviser, said Li Ling, 99% of narcotic consumers had a painful experience. The reason they did drugs to make themselves to escape the pain. It's like conceal in the shadows, painful truth is a demon, the monster in order to shirk this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil. There are many alcoholism
adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, father survive a lot of torment. To forget the pain, they learn the same course. In addition to these apparent
bad way, we peoples have invented a myriad of a heap of ways to escape anguish, Freud referred to these methods of psychological ward mechanisms. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is required, but worse, if the perversion of the facts of psychological defense mechanism is so intense, it will bring out the more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive muddle, social solicitude disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia.
actually only one way to reach a healthy --- face the pain. Facing the pain would get a lot from the pain of unexpected gains, they will eventually become the life of the party of wealth.
Remember: eclipse and light, as are the wealth of life.
one of the most important psychological statute is, no matter how painful, you are no escape. You can only go heroic face it and resolve it, further it, and it finally reached a settlement. If you own a temporary absence of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives for help, or seek vocational help, companion you trust with you to face the pain.
Rogers, American psychologist, was the most solitary person, but when he determined to face this fact and after he became a true main of interpersonal relationships; American psychologist Frank has a brutal and alcoholic stepfather and a bad mother, but when he challenges the fact and, afterward, from the center to excuse his parents, he became an specialist in this district treatment; Japanese psychologist Morita nag was creature solemn neurological disorder, but he challenges the fact and via Morita treatment eventually invented the ... ... their most painful fact of life eventually became their most important funds. You can do the same.

(e) operation fable --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to cram on the accustomed. Few years later, they graduate and acquire a doctorate. However, the crab is still rampant, owls slumber during the day and evening activities are still the bat still hung upside down. Psychological Review】 【


This is even noted main of a fable, and its signification is simple: action more important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
phoned profound knowledge of psychology. However, the more even the best knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who had studied psychology for many years, they learn one of the intentions of psychology is to rule themselves, but after so numerous years of educate, their problems remain.
reason why this happens, a very important cause is, they do not personally, by far just the learning of knowledge, learning, and not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, has been considered less acute than those of psychology, not suitable for Psychology. But the fact is that assumption is not correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge quickly in their own lives to do it. As a outcome, the knowledge that becomes a distant real life experience, he does not
If we say that the quality of high sensitivity is a talent, then the power is more important Gao genius quality.
this fable can bring an end to ... of distinct meaning: Do not anticipate too many the magic of the recondite psychological dispose. Always the most important compel in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the latent development of mysterious, dazzling success and so along, are distant minor to the power of your own body has been important. We secondhand to go outside to ascertain the respond to somebody else looking for strength, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically save you.
punch if some renju touched you, if some text or a current creed inspired you. So, these other people's words and experience are just a start, more importantly, a good knowledge you think you really use in your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always considered the most important:
you must start their own. If you do not love to go deep in a assured life, if you do not own way to reveal the meaning of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain meaningless.

(VI) to give the Fables:

bees and flowers shriveled roses, the bees are still hard suck, because it takes before sucking off from this little sweet. But now in this little to spend, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter taste is the big difference with the previous. Thus, bees anger, however, breathe on it the whole world looked up to complain about, why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating wings, flying a bit high. At this time, it found, withered roses around the flowers everywhere. Psychological Review】 【


This is the fable about adore, is a young language teacher of the true emotion.
some time, she was falling out of love, painful, and forever wanted to talk about me, I wish I can give her some knowledge of psychology aid. We have some time, but almost two months later, the absolute time they can not happen to get together.
the last time about her, she said: The pain of lost love is still plagued her, let her trance, incapable to enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she noticed a little on the honey bee is a flower. That moment, her mind like thunder and lightning appeared in one sentence: was such a stupid, she's the bees in this sentence refers to her own lesson. That moment, she had to give up the truth out of sagacity. Previously, she wanted me to help her out,Kids Air Max White/Black Sole Nike Shoes, but in fact,Mens Air Max 2009 Grey/Red/Black Leather Nike Shoes, the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
give up is not easy to give up love, primarily painful. Because, love is when our young copy of parent-child relationship. Small children, no matter from which side, parents can not do without. If a complete denial of his father and mama, and that manner decease for him, this is the ultimate injure and terror. We have experienced just about been denied parents the pain and terror, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once again we experience the pain and alarm, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, likened to love and parent-child relationship, there is a mammoth difference: a child, naught we can do, all parents have the terminal say; But now we grow up, we have the power to choose their own destiny. It can be said, a child, we do not have wings bee, but now we have one pair of powerful wings.
However, when deeply in love, we will return to infancy, we forget that they have a pair of wings to fly. When we accomplish that, afterward their love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, our love was free, there is a give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, independent and human dignity thing. You can work, but not that hard for you there will be results, because another person, you can not determine.
So, no matter how much you care about the time love, if another person resolved to depart you, please esteem his alternative.
And also remember, you are no longer a child, are left with the pain of torture. You have grown up, you have a pair of powerful wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.

(g) close to the fable: the unique Rose

Little Prince has a small planet, the planet suddenly blooming flower blooming roses. Previously, only some nameless on this planet the flowers, the little prince had never seen such beautiful flowers, he fell in love with this rose, cautiously nurtured her.
those days, he thought, this is a solitary flower on world, only his only planet, other locations do not exist.
, whatsoever, so he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this period, he knows that he only have an mediocre flower.
the opening, this discovery, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, however there are many roses in the world, but his planet tis is still unique because that rose, he had water, cover flowers to cover her with a screen conservation over , in addition to her body caterpillars, but also to hear to her grumbled, or boasted, listening to calm her ... ... a word, and he tamed her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.
Psychological Review】 【


This is a French prestigious
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we vacant the increasingly renowned We are anxious to have
. Seems that each has had a rose, the value of their own lives to Duoliaoyifen. Internet old, with several ten lover, is no longer a infrequent thing too. But I know who these random, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will quickly lose interest in this intimate relationship. the stronger the desire to conquer, the faster the rate of loss. attractive.
However, the relationship among the United States, nearly two inputs is the amplitude and degree to be tamed. When two people are surely going into, naturally, be tamed, the relationship will become a life nourishment, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no material how close. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still a rose, they are still two individuals. Rose not to peregrination if the little prince, little prince or non-travel the roses with me, they have to stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: either a near and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than a thousand general. This relationship will bring us the sense of solitude from the hopeless rescue is the most important in our lives a kind of salvation.
If you have not seasoned, you can not understand the prettiness of this relationship.