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Join Date: Feb 2011
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we talk about in detail the child's learning. The most troublesome is the child the parents do not love learning, love to play, even though we say that play is learning, but after all the child and society a real relationship, that is, the formation of the child to full contact and society, and society must learn social and cultural contacts , we must learn human music, painting, art, architecture, etc., children 5-10 years of age, his right brain function has been formed, also began to develop the left brain, 5-10-year-old child's self-awareness has not fully formed self-identity. Parents in this important period of 5-10 years of age there are many ways to do something for the children, because children tend to be more information to parents to accept, this period is the testimony of children like learning, like knowledge, the best time, after this period, You want your children to love learning very difficult, and this time Mom and Dad can easily affect the child.
some strategies we can to think, first of all look at what children 5-10 years old will not be criticized, what would be criticized? Many children can play at home, watching TV can be free, but the time to learn will stay with Mom and Dad, you have this? Learning when you let him sit up, and hand to put away, the eyes farther away from the book, or will myopia, there will call him the word was wrong, if the operation did not finish will beat him. However, he played when you go to hurt him? You will go to teach him how to play it? Are you going to criticize him? Do one thing if a child may be subjected to blame, and do another thing he is full of happiness and freedom, do you think he would like? Parents have always been thinking this way, as a psychiatrist I have a responsibility to remind parents of the children ,5-10 years old when the formation of a behavior is the formation of an internal rule of the time. At this stage, many parents talked about his son smiling, saying how clever my darling, how beautiful, how competent, but you ask him to learn how? He was unhappy that my son is not love learning, being smart is not the way to go. Usually the parents never taught him not to fight him in other ways, but to beat him in learning, just do damage to the child's motivation. This time the child does not make sense to speak of, he did not know what good, what the Department is good, he could distinguish the good, the left brain has not formed, the structure of his system is not a complete structure, this time he was more concerned about the mother facial expressions and attitude, if you always call him in learning, a child's sense of self learning experience will be very bad, he will be busy. When children play, when Mom and Dad will play with him, would smile, the child unconscious in the play that will be happy when Mom and Dad, kids like my parents happy, so he tried to play when you do not call him, Because he was happy to play when you do, since he played you happy, the children of course like to play.
Conversely, let us talk, children 5-10 years old learn to read, of course, not just reading, but reading is an important symbol, the children listen to music, playing the piano , paint can, no matter what the child, he must be absolutely a good impression, when he would read when Mom and Dad happy, regardless of his crooked look upside down to see all forget about him, see him reading for pleasure. He wrote the word crooked also pleased, as long as he was writing, because he always wrote positive, children do not want to imitate others, you do not let him pain. Children can do wrong question, the teacher does not change the title thing is, parents something Jia. Children at home, which, whether he was reading or study of ants crawling, he is absolutely right, but he is not the same when watching television, you let him sit up, like my son, I told him to watch TV sit , or else how to do your lumbar curve? Physical development is not good for you! Do not eat when the children learned, anyway, you have to change his habits, but not in study hard, to study hard outside, as long as he broke into boisterous play when you tell him how you like son, son you have how to, so that he establish a good habit. Studies do not tell him, when you create custom in other places, he will transition in learning, just not in his criticism of him in learning, behavior must not criticize him in learning, children 10 years old and wiser He knows you well for him. 5-year-old he does not know how this thing is good, he just thought this is bad, he do this mother angry.
parents in their children read, big things do not bother him, and if a fire occurs in the family must disturb him. For example, some people call, you will say wait a minute my son is learning to call back, he will be an environment in which learning is very important. If children feel that reading, studying, homework is very important when mom and dad do not watch TV or read with a headset, and why? Because learning is important, my parents did not bother him. Similarly, when my father and let children read quietly, do not bother him. 5-10 years of age is very useful if this time the child feel that learning is a good thing, as long as he is full freedom to read, what shape he will do, remember this is not allowed at other times, only to learn on the permit, he will create a sense of the sacred learning, learning to become happy. If the child playing the game, not against him, allowing him to play, but told him to sit up when sitting, hand on where, how much was at right angles to the eye, my mother holding a ruler than painted, and he soon do not play games, and he felt that playing games is always wrong. You can teach him how to do, how to play, you can teach him other rules, Gan Mafei in his possession when he was studying him.
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5-10 year-old child the best way to stimulate his sensitive study, learn what not to say that today, tomorrow, learn, must use the same time stimulate a variety of knowledge systems, not just book knowledge, I can tell you that children under grade 6 not learn anything in school, he studied the social competence, communication, social emotional, psychological development structure, the game, which is children significant development before the age of 12. I talk about psychology, children's intellectual development depends mainly on perception of full, if he grew a lot of natural information by stimulation and stimulation of scientific information, a feature of this mental stimulation: each parent to develop a child's interest And this interest in whatever interest, even of ants, he let him have a certain depth of research, because the intelligence is always started from one point to improve, and then spread to the other categories. Now we know this, I proposed, children 5-10 years of age must help him to learn a certain knowledge, perhaps the history, color, piano, etc., at a certain point anyway, to put him on the intellectual improvement a height, so that the child meet the school's learning will be very simple, because there is a level of intelligence, if a child just like children, Many parents do not want to let children play with models, puzzles, many parents let their children play, think it will affect their learning, but now the idea is that if a child is doing a game, this game is to learn from him on this thing of the control and understanding of the abstract, including the development of memory are go hand in hand with his intellectual ability. If something like a child at that time the parents will help him, but do not push him, but to stop to put some data, information in there, let him see that he will develop into deeper thinking and understanding, this understanding into other forms, his learning will be better.
high school in Beijing, a survey of Beijing children to play four games in learning is a good master, why? Master is a master of learning the game, which is determined by intelligence level, learning good kids just break than others in certain aspects of intellectual depth, you can easily learn to play, easy to learn would be to play, so what side is he good . Do not let the children went to school on what is not competent, can not draw, can not play the piano, not puzzles ... ... the development of his own high intelligence, you have to give up his adaptation of the structure, the result of his development has been hindered.
As a parent, you must know, children have a lot of individuality, not every child can learn to adapt to the school, the school is through learning about, go hand in hand way to transmit knowledge, but many the child's intelligence with his own style, if one day you find your child do well, is learning well, okay, people learn in the knowledge structure obtained from the growth of even 1 / 10 is not that a lot of growth is conducted outside the school, many children are very smart, but not in school, because he was not suited to the intellectual indoctrination that stereotypical way, he may prefer a self-thinking way.
let the children enjoy learning in primary and secondary schools throughout this period, primary school, when children enjoy learning, not just look at scores, the child is not only good quality primary schools to 30 - 40-year-old talent is really good, what's the use primary good, why because the primary school children learn to suppress the very powerful. Intellectual level of development and many children do not like the other children, I have a teacher in the Normal conversation, elementary school teacher must be a favorite teacher, the child may not like a child learning and learning environment were significantly related, because the child may not like this school depends on the school environment, teachers like it or not depends on the level of the teacher's personality and psychology, the teacher does not charm, always Xiong Baba, the children worked hard to learn at home a good impression created will be destroyed by the teacher. I once made a speech in Beijing, the teacher to beauty, to look good, especially the former fourth grade teacher can not be the person looks in trouble, because the teacher is the school symbol, a symbol of learning. We come from the East and West, 7-9-year-old investigation of a man who is Is gentle, smiling, if a teacher Xiong Baba, while the child kneeling, standing while the child, the child will like it, he does not like the teacher does not like learning. A feature in the secondary schools, if teachers do not like him, and his topic will be worse this door, and why? We want to return to the level of the child's thinking, we can not impose their own ideas to, and their children do not understand the teacher is good teacher to teach well, but he is ferocious, and he do not understand the children, the results children learn to bad. Moderate teacher is always be students like the teachers, with teachers at the primary maternity is very important because my mother to work, the child still attached to my mother, my mother better than the results of the teacher, the child's psychological development is very comfortable, he would not have been barrier, he will not suffer from psychological pain, his cotton in the school and teachers. If a teacher has some knowledge of psychology, like mother, like to be students, especially low-grade teacher must be gentle, good-looking, more comfortable at least arranged, so that children have a good feeling, so that all of the goodwill are concentrated in the study, he It is impossible not to learn.
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children 5-10 years of age if you period, let the child to fully experience the joy of learning, the child is impossible not to learn, because people are always happy to do something, do not do the painful thing, and if learning has become his most painful thing, even kill him, he does not learn, he hit me think you are now short-term pain, long after the pain , you hit it, I'll get over you no matter what I learned. This is human nature, we must use a more secure way to think about child development, children are not philosophers, he did not know what is wrong, and he reflected the wisdom of the moment, his mother would be angry to learn that he did not learn her mother would be pleased. As the lower grades, children go to school to become a favorite place, of course, we can not change the reality of China's profound educational thought, but our education or some changes have taken place. Sometimes we take into account the characteristics of children, some children can not meet the model of learning, but he is an important person, the Chinese have a saying When he speaks slowly, the right brain was fully developed. Mainly right-brain intelligence, knowledge structure is the left brain, to understand and apply the results of knowledge it is the right brain function, the past is not important we mistakenly understood that the right brain, right brain is very important in fact, the right brain than left brain to and more experience. At this time we want to know, verbal stimulation is, however, the stimulus to desperately poor, and naturally occurring speech is very good, but if you forced him to read, like a kindergarten teacher, the parents of your child learn a word Education 50, teacher in high spirits, and he took the children every day to read, this more terrible. So I watched the news whole body cold sweat, really to be so dry even worse a child, a child like this (the level of intelligence) can not be a very deep person. We also see that many people live poorly developed left brain, and he only knew of linear events, real events is not important to him, the abstract structure of the linear model of the events he felt very comfortable, but he will touch walk to the poles, would fall into the ditch to meet and why? Because he is not a right brain, right brain is empty, he is not a normal person. Determine the most emotional from a psychological disorder, including some great people here, but there are some people in the right brain has been abandoned, and some even married his wife are not, and science is real people out of an existing, because it is abstract The.
create rules to establish the rules is very interesting, we focus on about 5-10 years old, 5-10-year-old children, an important period to establish rules for the age of 5 he was not allowed to do this before that some cruel, as long as not too much a problem let him do things, 5 years old we want to establish rules, 5 years old when his mother would get angry that you can be angry, but you can not tear the father's books, those books is the father of the baby, you tear the father would be angry and will fight you. At that time you can tell the children what to do and what not to do. One premise is that we are more concerned about the children, we developed a lot of kids safety rules, we strive to 5-10 year old children learn to adult awareness of what can not do, give him a lot of the provisions of the rules, it can not do, It can not do, anyway, so educate him Mom and Dad. In the modern knowledge which believes that children in the 5-10 year-old full freedom to give decision-making and the opportunity to undertake acts of responsibility, how to achieve these aims? We only give the child to develop a rule set in the family there is only one rule in the community which can only be a rule, children have a lot of power and strength to the formation of his internal rules, which belong to the child's own rules. For example, the child in the family there is only one thing to respect the father and mother, only to ask him this, he can do anything. For example, his electric touch, my mother would say, it makes my mother worry, it will hit you. This is not to instruct him to do, but that something in the way of who this child one of the rules is to love father and mother, he would not do it, he knew would be dangerous to do on bad parents He does not do is not to dictate the father and mother, but generated a lot of his own rules, including meals, because he has to respect the father and mother, and respect the way through the story so that children understand respect.
society is only one rule is that you should not affect the behavior of others, for the premise that human society is very simple because only one rule that everyone in mind that if too many people can not remember the rules, we In the secondary survey and found that more than 200 secondary school regulations, only 8 Normal school rules, you obviously feel that the order of the two schools is different. Normal school rules only eight, but not in front of loving the motherland, love of the party's content, it easy to remember, is to remember that a few children, they see the teacher will salute, they will form their own rules, because he very clear. School is very confusing, because too much can not remember, more than 200 rules and regulations of the teacher can not remember, just as the Emperor can not remember some of the rules will find a eunuch to open book to find out to be understood. Less complex rules to the point of what children remember, social rules can not be formed if too many internal rules. Children 5-10 years of age in the formation rules, the rules of a child to imitate the formation of social rules within the constraints of his life, if a child given a large number of rules, he has no ability to form self-rule to all obedience, In the East there is indeed some kind of education is required to obey the hidden language. Children can not form within the rules can only rely on external rules, the rules he was sensitive to any place, his desire to rule, but one thing, when no rules, he does not know what to do, because he no internal constraints, he is young by external constraint was that when external constraints not to his control, he becomes no rules. Like many students, many children there are many rules at home under control quite well, but one college, Mom and Dad gone, Mom and Dad on behalf of the rule, the rule is lost, he did not form an internal control rules, he suddenly do not learn, he does not know what to do, because in the past is the mother to let him learn to learn, but did not remind him he does not know himself, so period of 5-10 years old, my parents have a very important task is to make children the formation of the internal rules of a degree of freedom, first of all parents to do well, the internal rules of children through imitation, is by learning, not mandatory, is his natural needs, how he did not Who, over- he will obey external rules of the rules will lose their ability.
children of my brother back from Canada to drive a lot of trouble, he always let pedestrians, I said the Chinese not to pedestrians. He said that no, I do not allow pedestrians to drive would be uncomfortable. We were in Sanya, where pedestrians are jaywalking, he can not open, but as long as one lane in back of the car horn. I say Forget it, you down or I open it, I do not have internal rules. Therefore, the establishment of rules is needed technology, we have established rules to uphold and swing into the gentle, one is stable, can not be too harsh, too harsh a child will be injured, we want to build one or two rules, how to build a good rule ? Is a gentle insistence, to allow exceptions when a child in a particular, New Year, birthday parties are the exception, but the rules must be less, the rules of the child to have one or two more internal form of rules, so children will self, in the What will the local consciousness, through the study Shanghao, he will ease rules to form, he learn to relax, he feel that learning is safe, if learning is the most insecure, he went to where the learning is uncomfortable.
in the establishment of rules, there are many technical, I shall tell you about some of the content, in establishing rules not to Do not remind him who does not love clean, my mother would Children over the age of 10 can be provided, at that time he understands you, not before the age of 10, why? 5-10 years of age is to build relationships, you need to love him clean, you always remind him some clean, do not remind him of dirty parts. Example, we say, baby how your face today, so dirty ah? Child may think, my mother angry, up to wash my face clean. The next day my mother said, your neck is so dirty, not clean the face, neck, or dirty. Home the next day saw the children again confused clean neck. You will see that you see your little black hand, when the child still thinks he is dirty, he was up to little hands get clean, the results also found that his knee on the mother is dirty, anyway, my mother always see He does not clean place, the result to 8-9 years of age when he will give up, keep the child is not a dirty boy prove himself, he can see where my mother is dirty, the children reported in the failure of all efforts, Finally, the child would not have done. 5-year-old child will say here today, clean, and he did all the work, but my mother that a child is dirty, the children are reported to all efforts fail, the results agree with him, he would not care, he ultimately become a dirty child. This is her opposite result set is wrong, if the child's face is dirty, you can say, wow your little nose and a good white, I want to kiss my son's nose, like white, like this he will face wash tomorrow kissed you. This is only for children 5-10 years of age, adolescent children if you so angry he was, 5-year-old if you kiss his nose, he will face washed by her mother's parents face, and he all clean Why? He was too happy, his mother very happy, my mother did not say he was dirty, he feels that he is a clean child, to the 8-9 years old children will self-identity, I am a clean, loving child. If the child is a petty, you will find opportunities to boast he was generous, as long as he put a thing to someone else, even if it is him not, and you praise him, my son Haobang, so generous, my mom's childhood have to do no. Next time he would put their favorite things to others, because he was too like her mother happy.
psychology there is a usual saying, if you do not want your child to the tiger, not to mention the tiger to do this thing. For example, this morning you said the child, son, mother to tell you, today you do not like Tiger, you can want something, the only can not think of a tiger. When children go to school carrying a school bag, and you ran after him in the back, said his son today, you have to remember what? The son replied, do not think the tiger. Back home, mother asked, like the tiger did not? Son said, thought. Mother asked Why do you want? He certainly thought you all day to remind him that he did not want it? Therefore, we hope the children aged 5-10 have a good behavior at this stage, we can initially fabricated, enhanced in the slow stage of the process of positive reinforcement in behavior, my son will become such a man. Mom first have to decide what your child is a kind of person, then you will see this thing, if people assume that the child is lying, do you think each phrase was lying, the parents of 5-10 years of age is very important, For example, the child's mother lying lying anxiety hit, she felt that honesty is the most important, sensitive mother of lying, because this matter today, her mother angry, he excited the anxiety of her heart, she brought in the complaints of anxiety to the child in length, the children become very much trouble speaking. Children to say anything that my mum would see him staring at the child is not lying, the children struggled every time he proved he did not lie, my mother looking for evidence that children do not speak honestly, the results of this child will give up resistance, to 10 years ago, he accepted that he is a liar, children grow to adolescence, to the transition lie was arrested, his mother would
5-10 years of age is a child model for the formation of behavioral and emotional control of a Model System for the period. Let the children understand the emotions, do not make value judgments on emotions, not to say that this is a good thing, that is a bad thing. Children 10 years of age, social and cultural will tell the child that this proposal is bad, but because of 5-10 year-old mother gave the child a strong knowledge, crying, sadness, anger is a human naturally occurring, and to educate their children learn to recognize these emotions, Do not criticize him, do not say anger is wrong, not to mention the hostility of the people is wrong, you are not hostile in the original forest which will not work, nothing can hurt you.
emotions of children is a complex system, parents do not do bad things, we always put things into good and bad aspects, and when you do not support the concept, you feel this is coming at you, the same children, children 5-10 years of age in the formation of an exchange of the most important time, to lead the children say that they like to share that? Equal Exchange is the first communication with the child, the mother told the child is not to communicate an idea but the education, many parents say that I am a very good exchange, I was a child opened his eyes to the Bi Yanjing and the children are talking, but the mother said was her idea, the idea is to shut up the child, and he said he did not want children any mother said, but this is not the exchange of harm.
at this stage, so that children with emotional identification, understanding of the role of emotions, for example, you tell the son, you can cry but do not cry like a girl wah-wah, so that others will laugh at you This is possible. Children 5-10 years of age is to establish the development of psychological structure, but also interpersonal, social and behavioral development of the important capabilities of this important period of many parents to neglect children after the age of 10 you go to remedial education difficult. Symbiotic phase of mother and child will have empathy, but some mothers did not develop in children 5-10 years old children's empathy, the mother told the child to feel sorry for animals, the children break the grass, the grass will hurt my mother would say and so on, which is good, the child to feel this investment by others, this child is more good, he will not to hurt others. In the emotional flow to allow the child's feelings, let the children know that anger is not always angry, happy and not always a happy mood is like water flowing, allowing the child's emotions to flow, do not say you can not do this, you just can be happy, you can only laugh, then how could a person not always a happy mood. Finally, management, children 5-10 years of age, if the father a bad temper, must not get angry in front of children, to learn self-restraint and management. Children 5-10 years of age is habit formation, this time is the key to the formation of their children many things.
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